Sunday, February 28, 2021

Have you ever made an entire movie theater laugh? by #KylePhoenix

 

I don’t watch a lot of TV, barely any so that means that the movies are a big entertainment treat for me.

I like to sneak in food (I’ve done Chinese food and even a whole beef ribs and potato and Pepsi from BBQs. Generally I stick with a hot pastrami hero and a Pepsi. Yes, I still buy popcorn.). The movies are a mini-event for me.

Years ago a friend worked at one of those theaters that shows older films and kept inviting me. So I went one weekend. They were showing the classic action thriller Seven with Morgan Freeman and Brad Pitt. This was some time after it had come out but I had yet to see it.

I generally avoid war movies, horror movies and comedies but this time I made an exception—-going in, knowing it might be gory.

It starts rolling along and the theater is about 200 people packed and I can’t help it.

I start laughing.

At all the “wrong” times.

The film is sort of darkly………HILARIOUS.

Each murder/mayhem is more and more far reaching, broad strokes, insane.

When he kills the fashion model and she has the choice of suicide-pills or calling for help—-the cutting off of her part of her face meaning the end of her career but she can save herself from bleeding to death——”He cut off her nose to spite her face.” My light outbursts and chuckles became a full on guffaw.

That shit is funny.

Now my group of friends is tickled by my laughter every time I laugh, they can’t help but laugh too. Soon the entire theater is waiting and then bursting out laughing when I do.

Okay, okay, okay…….the big field, the cops with Kevin Spacey and a Fed Ex truck pulls up. A wisp of blood hair comes form the opened box.

Lost it. I lost it.

I lost it because on one level the movie is brilliant in its’ insanity—-from a writing/writer’s perspective and two, it’s further insane because everyone is playing this film in a dreary way, as deeply serious.

But the whole serial killer/Deadly Sins angle is like watching this serial killer artist paint a mad tapestry that gets more and more insanely creative and destructive.

But it’s not simply gory for gore’s sake—-it’s this creative gore. Truly creative. And has a deep pique of sardonic humor to it. The Mozart of serial killers is deeply playing this game with the cops, the world and the movie itself, with the audience.

So the movie ends, on a wild note for me, and we all file out and people are following me, crowding around to get to know me, to ask what and why I found things funny if they didn’t directly get it when I laughed. One couple, with a stroller and baby, is like didn’t I think laughing ruined the mood? And I’m like: “What mood? Serial killer, manic gore and carnage in your head mood? And how are you bringing a toddler to this?”

See here’s how I see it.

It’s a movie.

It’s fiction. Fiction is NOT real. Fiction is a stretching of real-ity to insane proportions for entertainment’s sake.

Are there real serial killers—-sure, but that’s not what we were in that theater to dwell upon. We entered that space willingly knowing that we were going to see some fiction. With actors. On a giant screen.

One of the reasons why I avoid too much entertainment/TV consumption is because it projects not just false values but because it projects a lot of fiction and fantasy without often pragmatic or reality contextualizations.

By that big word sentence—-I mean just what the couple was demonstrating to me—-you’re invested in this movie being horrible, disgusting, freaking you out” and you bring your child.

Just think about that for a second.

Let’s go into a dark room and watch murder and mayhem. And bring our children!

That’s sort of darkly hilarious too.

You’ve so normed insanity that it’s a family event. Or even more disturbingly, you’ve so normed horrific fictitious projections that you MUST match it’s mood or react as IT intends.

See, I see TV and movies with a detachment. The way you’re detached when you’re in the supermarket and picking fruits and vegetables. Do you ever think THAT green pepper will be offended that I chose THAT one instead? Or do you wonder what the lady next to you is thinking of you for buying 4 and not 3 apples?

I have a TV show so I know all of the science of how video/film projection works and sometimes I’m editing videos and episodes down to the 1–5 second clips—-what’s long enough for something to get into your brain and at the same time you can or cannot recognize it. 30 images per second is generally the speed I’m working in and sometimes I’m shaving off or adding half a second to things. I’m doing this to GET INTO YOUR BRAIN with whatever I am making/creating. The hope is that I stay responsible and conscious but not everyone is doing so.

But the way to defend against shit, and most of it is shit, coming into your brain willy nilly 30x faster than you can consciously process or filter, is to break up the image—-have a portion of your self/brain looking at it in a detached way, seeing and pointing things out—-even laughing.

Sometimes I’m looking at things in a detached writer kind of way where I’m considering the structure of a scene, the actors, the language itself. As a teaching tool I often use clips, never longer than 15 minutes, for students, and if possible I put on the subtitles and closed captioning. This forces the brain to pay a sort of dual attention so that you don't get sucked into to just silent absorption.

Also another thing I personally do is I have videos, films on multiple screens while I’m doing something else so I’m paying partial attention, not the totality of my attention.

What I’m always trying to do is keep THAT at mental bay, force it to slow down, explain itself, show itself to me and go through my Mental Filter. Notice no one talks about that, people generally talk about getting totally absorbed into entertainment.

A few years ago I was running an Amazon store, making oodles of cash and the Passion of the Christ came out. So I was figuring out my whole DVD scheme and marketing and so on and working full time. A co-worker asked if I’d seen the movie and I was like :”Hell to the no! I’m not a Christian but what kind of sense would it make to willingly go into a darks theater, with hundreds of people, to watch my deity be killed? On a Saturday night.”

No, no, no, don’t bring religion or belief or faith into it-—-don't’ clean it up or justify it.

Go into a theater to watch your personal concept of God be horribly tortured and killed. Just hold that thought.

Ludicrous.

I fully expect within my lifetime for us to be able to go to large theaters to watch REAL snuff films, kids being raped, puppies shot in the face. There’s a whole thing in here about extremes and gore and such and what that does to the mind, to the core psyche to the spirit. But I’m not going there.

Seven was funny and creative and I avoid gory films. And the audience laughed at the insanity as I did and with me. But some of what I was laughing at—-was the gullibility of the audience itself.

And I have a TV show.

lol

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When can you call yourself a writer? by #KylePhoenix

 

You don't.

Any pretensions initially basically mean you're a narcissistic asshole/fool. You simply start by the desire to express yourself like tens of millions have for millennia.
But if you consistently work at it from middle school to college and 10 years beyond, you're registered for the marathon.
Then.......

You write.

You write badly for years.

You take some classes, get some feedback, get that first thing nationally, internationally published.

(Writers Digest big book of magazine markets is great. I started off sending 20 submissions a month in college. One tome in a Barnes and noble I picked up an interesting magazine and one of my short stories was in it!)

Then you start thinking hmmmmmm?

But not yet.

Don’t label yourself. Get 10 years of writing under your belt, a few thousand pages. All the dreck out. (The Hemmingways a 500 page handwritten tome that was a soap opera of near biblical proportions. I wrote it from the 7th grade to the 9th, and other students passed it around school. The Dean pulled me into his office with my sudsy trope between us. He said I was a writer. I was slightly aghast and embarrassed.)

High school I wrote another eight 300 page manuscripts. Not The Hemmingways. Then in college a novella that I would submit to a publisher workshopped with me, several classes and my mentor, Raymond Federman. To a university in Boulder, Ronald Sukenick, a colleague of Federman’s, and he elected to publish more short stories, and suggested the 125 page novel was a novel. A few years later, boom 600 pages. The novel Hush was published in 2019.

I've published a lot of books, short stories, articles, blogs and the honest truth is I think, people name you a writer and then it sort of dawns on you, like a sweater you've been wearing for years, that it fits.

I was doing a book signing/event, maybe 50 people, a rainstorm got me there so late I just gave away the 60 books because people stayed. And I had it filmed for my TV show and people were asking me all these writerly questions. One of my students filmed it for my TV show and it sort of dawned on me then—-crowd, lights camera, questions, my books—-Hey, I’m a writer!

It was about 30 years since I was passing around The Hemmingways in Middle School and I do sometimes think or when asked: "Hmmmm, I think I'm a writer, author now."

Your Recipe Before You Can Confidently Say It Should Be

  • 20 years.
  • Minimum 10,000 pages.
  • 2 published books.
  • 25 articles.
  • 250+ blogs.
  • Money paid to you for writing that allows you to buy yourself a nice dinner.

When you've made that much commitment you've earned the title in a true way, not a goth kid with poetry that mentions trees, love, leaves, soul----the quad poetry signal of bad/amateur work—-constantly in their work. And then people will validate it back.

It will also happen when you move out of yoru masturbatory fascination with popular stuff—-Harry Potter, vampires, sci fi fantsies that are exacly liek the one you’re writing and th enew bane of good writers—-trilogies.

There will come a point as a writer where you’ve played around, gotten some feedback from an audience and you start writing things that are perhaps good or not but you’re captivated by them. And it’s difficult—-on purpose—-the story requires SKILLS—-not just imagination or rehashing of Hunger Games.

There comes a point, much like having children, where the newness wears off and you’re in, you’re committed to loving them, raising them, doing extra for them.

When you start feeling that for your writing and you can look at a shelf and see some go do works and you know that’s just the packaged beginnings—-then, then you’re a writer.

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Kyle Phoenix is a teacher, certified adult educator, sexologist, sex coach and sexuality educator with over two decades of intensive experience. He studied at the University at Buffalo, SUNY, New York University, and Columbia University. He has worked, consulted and taught individuals and focused professional developments for the CDC, Department of Education, Gay Men's Health Crisis, New York City Department of Health, non-profits, Fortune 500 companies and unions. He began his career facilitating on-campus workshops addressing a wide range of sexuality and sexual health issues and then moved on to teaching at universities, non-profits, private groups and clients, hosting The Kyle Phoenix Show on television and multiple online webinars, including YouTube and Sclipo and writing extensively through his blog, Special Reports, articles and other print and E books in the Kyle Phoenix Series on relationships, finance, education, spirituality and culture. He lives in New York with his family.


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Can you run out of ideas if you have written a lot of novels? by #KylePhoenix

 

Not exactly. What happens is your ideas sharpen so the amount of ideas lessens. You start learning a process where you edit, fix or delete ideas better so you don’t pursue unworkable projects—-in many ways you learn how to write more in your head than on paper so you have a stronger outline/first draft.

Writing WHEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

In the past few years I’ve had dreams that have turned into novels—-which is great. Other novels have been from older manuscripts that I turned back to and infused with my maturer creativity. To a third point, I’ve also noticed things and those things have matured into fuller novels.

The above 3 structures of creativity have brought about 40+ fiction novels, 50–75 short stories and another 50+ nonfiction books.

I keep a small notebook by my bedside for notes from dreams that have story/novel potential. There are at least another 20+ ideas for novels in that notebook so far plus a few other ideas drumming around in my conscious mind. There are a few ideas that cross into certain genres that I want to explore.

  • Oddly, I’d like to do a Young Adult/Teen novel.
  • I also have an LGBT murder mystery thought.
  • I have a science fiction novel that I dreamt of and the entire visions were in a greyish blue hue.
  • I think since I’ve covered all the letters so far, I’d like to write a lesbian focused novel.

I know going in that generally my intended projects need to germinate for awhile, for me to “find my way”, in a particular topic/genre.

I’m experimenting with writing a horror novel, Mbube Mbube, right now and I’ve found that I have to go watch horror films to understand the pacing. When I read my first draft—-it was strong characterization but I was thinking there is no horror level foreboding.

I’m writing two novels that focus on, one the street, Street Life (hey, Randy Crawford!) and another on the social issue, Free, of Black men trying to kill their sons that I’ve noted in my own life and in my workshop clients. When I see such a pronounced pattern in so many lives it sticks for me to explore.

I constantly get these developmental steps into stories, novels. I will honestly say that it doesn’t feel like I write a lot but in sum, I do/write about 10 million words a year. About 80% I publish, broadcast in some form and there’s a 20% that sits on a shelf or in a box, awaiting me to grow more in ability and perceptions, to complete.

  • I have a trilogy, Race War: Hated, Hunted, Haunted about to print out in Proof form—-I’ve finally languaged out loud the entirety of the plot so now I can write it. It’s a trilogy that I intend to write each book in a slightly different form/narrative style to encompass the perceptions of race in the masses, the intra-relational and the individual. I had to learn what my scifi kicker element was, which took several back burner simmering of years to suss out.
  • I have two 12 part series, Court of Conscience, a legal thriller and Myriad, a magic/fantasy series. Three of the first books of COC are done, I’ve had it written for awhile and in the editing realizing it was too big and complex of a plot for a single novel. It will be a better work expanded to four 3 book trilogies, summing to 12 books. Then Myriad will do the same.

The above being in stages of further work, gives me several years of work to focus on.

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Kyle Phoenix is a teacher, certified adult educator, sexologist, sex coach and sexuality educator with over two decades of intensive experience. He studied at the University at Buffalo, SUNY, New York University, and Columbia University. He has worked, consulted and taught individuals and focused professional developments for the CDC, Department of Education, Gay Men's Health Crisis, New York City Department of Health, non-profits, Fortune 500 companies and unions. He began his career facilitating on-campus workshops addressing a wide range of sexuality and sexual health issues and then moved on to teaching at universities, non-profits, private groups and clients, hosting The Kyle Phoenix Show on television and multiple online webinars, including YouTube and Sclipo and writing extensively through his blog, Special Reports, articles and other print and E books in the Kyle Phoenix Series on relationships, finance, education, spirituality and culture. He lives in New York with his family.


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