The Pressure
Pressure Pt. 1 - Sounds Of Blackness <<
There are two things that men don’t realize about anal sex.
- Is that the anus has two muscle groups, the interior and the exterior muscle group that are essentially seized all day. Now the exterior muscles one can open and close by will but (pun!) the interior muscles are tighter and require mental concentration and patience to relax and open.
- The penis goes through 4 Stages in an Erection Life Cycle
- There’s Soft Arousal where there is flaccidity or it is pretty much being awakened. Normally men constantly have a state of minor arousal because of friction, pressure against the corona of the penis or against the skin, if uncircumcised. If seated and still, men generally aren’t being stimulated at all.
- There’s Fuller Arousal where there’s actually stimulation to the penis/corona and the beginnings of an erection. Sometimes this is called The Heat Stage.
- There’s then the Erection or Full Erection Stage. This is generally when a man’s penis is at it’s most solid for him based upon his health, and therefore, blood flow/vessel lack of blockage and age. The penis naturally is in a variety of positions as age progresses due to tensile strength, size and weight on a man. Generally the younger you are the closer it is to your stomach, then it lowers like a draw bridge until it more of hangs, even when hard. Penis size is also determined by weight not just length, you gain or lose 2–3 inches for every 35lbs one is over their “prime” weight to height ratio.
- Finally there’s the Refractory Period or Transition. What’s interesting about transition, for the penile connoisseur, is that it happens in-between every stage after initial arousal.
- Most people (men) think that you get aroused, you get hard, you ejaculate, you get soft, you rest, perhaps repeat. In fact what happens is you are naturally in soft arousal/nil, you go into transition, you go into fuller arousal, you go into transition again, you go to fuller arousal, you go into transition again, you go to full erection, you go back to fuller arousal, you go back to fuller erection.
- This is because sex shouldn’t be frantic stimulation to get the penis to fuller arousal and then to immediate full erection to rush to a rapid ejaculating release and orgasm; sex, healthy sex is foreplay, touching, seductive, talking, stimulation, more foreplay, touching, erection, simulated penetration, frottage, erection, fuller erection, penetration, transition, fuller erection, penetration, arousal, foreplay, touching, kissing, transition, fuller erection. Within a healthy period of time the male penis goes through various states as attention and arousal are shifting and changing.
- Ejaculation and Orgasm are two separate events. Children can have orgasms but not ejaculate because production hasn’t begun by a certain age (which is why all children play with themselves, even babies, they are sexually stimulating themselves to pleasure.)
- In adulthood, men generally forget this about their own physiological experiences and assume because they are seemingly simultaneous, orgasm and ejaculation, they must be one, the same thing.
- And two, that they always have to be together. Men can orgasm, multiple times in fact, continuously, without ejaculating. in fact it’s healthier. Think of them as two highway ramps on top of one another. Cars can go along either one but it isn’t necessary for the ejaculation ramp to be at the same speed as the arriving orgasm one.
Back to anal penetration.
- Now that you understand the constant flux an aroused penis is going through you can see the crux of the issue. It isn’t always a fully erect penis or a completely relaxed interior/exterior muscled anus that is being co-joined to be penetrated. You could have a penis in Transition but not Full Erection or a tight interior anal muscle group that isn’t fully relaxed. It takes mental patience to distinguish what is going on with one’s body, a partner’s body and time the interaction, and therefore optimal erection time to penetrate a relaxed, accessible anus.
- Lots of protein and green leafy vegetables help with the cleaning out of blood vessels so that can aid in a firmer erection. All leaning to bring one’ s self to fuller arousal and transition without aiming for full erection, gets the blood flowing to focus to a harder full erection.
In conclusion, it’s both the pressure, mental and physical.
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