It's cool because there's a taboo element to it and that line, boundary makes feel surprising. Every once in awhile for years I would have an out of body experience that this body was male vs the female bodies I'd been with.
It's also more diverse in the sense that bluntly, woman anus vagina but man anus and a penis, two attached but different types of sex bits.
Men are also more diverse than you initially expect, tender, gentle. One guy after a couple of hours of wrestling on the floor on pads and comforters, a nice touch I thought, next to his bed, had me lay down and he blew cool air on me head to toe. I'd never had that done before.
Another guy kept kneading my perineum with two knuckles and first I thought he was going for my anus....and missing but his grinding pressure soon had me relaxing, the nerve bundles sending tingling through me. Afterwards when be left, I had a good cry. He'd truly opened my too chakra and I was not just exposed and vulnerable without penetration but able to truly let go of a deluge of pent up anxieties.
Another guy was unexpectedly funny and the sex then changed into my viewing his body art, the blending of him clothed very masculine but naked, Asian not a stereotype but exotic as a way of being.
In menage a trois to have two men paying attention to you, them both different can feel amazing and beautiful because as a man you're suddenly outnumbered naked so you must give I to being vulnerable, to trusting men to not harm you. So much of manhood is about self protection that the lowering of defenses to another man can feel radical.
When I've hired escorts I noticed my anxiety and nervousness was about being directly pleased as I'd instructed. To be served rather than having to concern myself with their pleasure at all, not something you can get away with with a woman.
When penetrating a man there's a sense of not just control but wonderment at your effect. You feel the condom, the sphincters and the space, gap, depth and tightness on the area of the sphincter and between that and the red of his body, you learn a body empathy. Too much, too deep, careful, relax, breathe, slow down, techniques. It's a much more conscious penetration because condoms, lube, patience is involved. Its mot roll over at aim for the wet spot, its very much about being connected consciously because he may not be able to do this at 50 mph in the first hour.
You learn how male sexual perception are different. I'm not big on oral sex but I you want to, blow away. Its just very meh to me. But some, make that most men its deep thrill and acceptance but to me unless I genuinely like the guy, its not my thrill either, emotionally. I find I not debasing but not"honored" for me to just randomly blow a guy. One there's not always mutual pleasuring and two, I'm not a service oriented kind of personality. I like balance and reciprocating. But I have learned to set that manhood sand grain and go to work as if and then truly take my time, make it not a job, but a blowpleasure.
You also learn to voice and seek what you like and hear what others do too. For all of my experience, I'm fairly non-kinky but have accommodated others.
A lot of the skills and temperament you learn with women is either focused at you or you learn to use with men. In many ways, 95%, having been with both, its much the same, almost physically, but definitely emotional and psychically. People mistake mechanics for involvement and connection, with connection, effort and comfort I can see how everyone could swing many ways.
Same sex is more attentive because there's a simpatico of physical understanding. Opposite there's a consciousness of differences in size, type, form always being negotiated and compensated for.
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