Wednesday, February 27, 2013

Pleasuring Tops, Bottoms and Versatiles by Kyle Phoenix



For over ten years I've been teaching workshops to men around sexuality and for the past 5 doing online seminars and the weekly The Kyle Phoenix television show around sexuality/identity---I thought it was time to pull together that information. People often email me questions and scenarios and problems, some really hilarious and some about serious distress that I've tried to address in this book. Everyone has a right to not only a healthy and enjoyable sex life but also to being able to decode the thoughts of others and how to please them as well. Men often express to me their confusion and frustration with other men from an emotional, spiritual and sexual perspective to the point where it seems like they're dealing with a whole other sex based upon the vagaries of sexual position. I thought this would be an excellent way to bring some
much needed insight and strategies to all men in the area of sexuality, being a homosexual man, whether one identifies due to race/culture as a gay, curious, queer, bi or same gender loving man.

Book Blurb: Written by Kyle Phoenix, Ed, Phd, author, television show host, YouTube sensation and a teacher on sexuality and relationships, as an expert he has over fifteen years experience and has counseled and work-shopped thousands of men and women.. His first book on sex and sexuality book focuses on being the preeminent instructional aid for men---gay, straight, bisexual and same gender loving to pleasure themselves and other men sexually. Kyle Phoenix has taught thousands of men throughout the country on his syndicated television show, The Kyle Phoenix Show (broadcasting to an audience of 500,000+ a week), countless in-person workshops, a daily blog (with over 25,000+ hits a day), online videos (with thousands of hits) and several universities. Now he brings through a detailed anatomy lesson, clear pictures, detailed glossary and outline of sexual positions, exercises and dozens of specific activities to try out with one's self or with a partner. The reader will learn how to have ecstatic, intense and mutually pleasurable sex for a lifetime! Included in the book are links to hundreds of Mr. Phoenix's instructive articles on dating, relationships and online videos. Every reader will close this book changed by the contents and ready to reach new heights of pleasure!
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Kyle Phoenix Reviews The Kingdom by Lars von Trier



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Saturday, February 23, 2013

Man Sues Parents for Not Loving Him Enough

(Kyle Phoenix review follows)


Bernard Bey


A 32-year-old Brooklyn man is suing his parents, claiming he wasn't loved enough by them and that their neglect has caused him to be homeless and jobless.
Bernard Bey filed a self-written lawsuit in Brooklyn court earlier this month, accusing his parents of causing him mental anguish and for making him feel "unloved and beaten by the world."
"If you have kids, you're expected to love your children," Bey told NBC 4 New York. "You want the best for your children."
Bey claimed he was physically and emotionally abused and ran away from home when he was 12, and then was in and out of the shelter system after turning 16. He's spent time in jail and is now homeless, and he believes his parents are at the root of his problems.
Bey is asking the court for more than $200,000 in damages. He wants his parents to mortgage their family home and purchase two franchises like Domino's Pizza.
The aspiring rapper said the money would be help the entire family.
"I feel like my parents should want the best for their children and grandchildren so we have something to pass down for generations so we don't have to live like this," he said.
Bey's parents, who live in public housing, said they're not in a position to give up any money. His stepfather named in the suit, Bernard Manley, had some choice unprintable words and maintained Bey is not his biological son.
Bey said he is willing to drop the lawsuit if his family will simply sit down at the dinner table with him.
"Let's work together, and definitely, I'll drop the suit," he said.


Unfortunately, there's a point of truth or validity to this. The misnomer people believe is that children become what their parents TELL them to be and do, the psychological.educational truth is that children become what their parents ARE. The fact that his parents aren't both his biological parents means that there was some sort of fracture in the family, the fact that his stepfather couldn't' answer without being so graphic that it was unprintable means that the man can't self-manage his anger, even he doesn't like something---which is what mentally balanced adults can do---so that Bey probably didn't grow up being taught self-management skills by either one of his parents, nor a most likely absentee biological father.

His parents live in Public Housing---which means that they are below a certain socioeconomic line as a couple which means that they both, combined don't earn over another line. So he, his family come from some sort of poverty---poverty not just being lack of finances but also poverty of resources---resources can be measured 0 to 4 on the Kraybrill Quotient through mental, physical, support systems, integrity, financial, desire/persistence, racial identity, sexual identity, hidden rules, relationships, etc.--- so this means that if his family is getting low numbers in the measurements they then taught him how to BE those low scores as well. He was released out into the world with low scores, in all the things we assume, in a country that sells Middle Class everywhere but ignores poverty. He's also frankly, attractive, which means he was probably prematurely sexualized as a child and unhealthily sexualized as an adult.

His emotional maturity will therefore be skewed because he was raised skewed and has probably never had an influential mentoring figure in his life to re-teach or mediate those skewings to normalcy for the society he's in.  But he's come to some understanding that his homelessness/dysfunctional life management has to do with being failed by his parents and not being able to undo that because they also didn't give him the skill set to know how to fix himself internally, which is what healthy parents give to children. 18 is the legal definition of an adult in America but anyone who has ever met a 19 year old knows that they know everything about nothing, a little bit of something about anything and ultimately nothing that can amount to anything because they haven't had the life experience to understand what they don't understand. You stop physically growing at about 25 to 27---that's when we actually reach brain formation/physical maturity and we're set as a human being. If Mr.Bey is 32, he's 5 years into being an adult if you give him maturity biologically/mentally at 27. If he was messed up by 18, then that means that from 18 to 27, probably he wasn't able to handle maturing and growing. A diseased acorn doesn't make a healthy tree.

Should he sue them? He's using the rules of our capitalistic adult world for how you deal with adults legally when they've wronged you or that has caused "damage" in your life. We're upset because it seems like a betrayal to do so to your parents and to question parenting skills. We assume that just because someone has children and the children survive 18 years with those parents that those are good parents yet we know that's not true or our prison systems wouldn't be packed with youthful offenders who evolve into adult offenders and prison occupants. Hopefully from this attention he can get the social worker/psychological attention he needs, the support system he needs to progress because he's still doing some emotional childish things/trying to get childish emotional needs/desires met. He wants them to sit down and have dinner together. 

Can you imagine what kind of family chaos he must come from that THAT is his dream/goal and he's willing to go to these lengths? 

I mean really sit and think about he wishes they could sit and have a dinner together. 
Damn. 
That means the dysfunction is so high, they've never, hardly ever, broken bread together. And if they didn't do that that lets us see that holidays didn't happen, support and love was probably lacking, they don't talk to each other, children and grandchildren were born out of wedlock, jail, homeless and parenting skills are so lacking that the progeny aren't doing well.  What we're REALLY seeing is something that also makes the rest of us VERY uncomfortable. Someone in poverty, the 60 million poor we have in America right now, one of them climbing to the next level and using Middle Class rules to shout to the rest of us what it's like growing up in the dungeons of poverty and how most people don't make it out. Ever.


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Kyle Phoenix

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Friday, February 22, 2013

Original Creator of Matrix & Terminator Wins $2.5 Billion In Lawsuit



Original Creator of Matrix & Terminator Wins $2.5 Billion In Lawsuit

After a six year dispute, prolific writer and profound spiritualist, Sophia Stewart has received justice for copyright infringement and racketeering and will finally recover damages from the films, The Matrix I, II and III, as well as The Terminator and its sequels. Yes, you heard that correctly – the entire Matrix & Terminator franchises, and her suspected pay off is expected to be the highest in history – an estimated 2.5 billion.

Her case is a true landmark, and far too uncommon as countless creatives are exploited by the snake-like dealings of the movie industry. Here’s a recap of her triumphant journey by way of George2.0:

“Stewart filed her case in 1999, after viewing the Matrix, which she felt had been based on her manuscript, ‘The Third Eye,’ copyrighted in 1981. In the mid-eighties Stewart had submitted her manuscript to an ad placed by the Wachowski Brothers, requesting new sci-fi works.

According to court documentation, an FBI investigation discovered that more than thirty minutes had been edited from the original film, in an attempt to avoid penalties for copyright infringement. The investigation also stated that ‘credible witnesses employed at Warner Brothers came forward, claiming that the executives and lawyers had full knowledge that the work in question did not belong to the Wachowski Brothers.’ These witnesses claimed to have seen Stewart’s original work and that it had been ‘often used during preparation of the motion pictures.’ The defendants tried, on several occasions, to have Stewart’s case dismissed, without success.

Stewart has confronted skepticism on all sides, much of which comes from Matrix fans, who are strangely loyal to the Wachowski Brothers. One on-line forum, entitled Matrix Explained has an entire section devoted to Stewart. Some who have researched her history and writings are open to her story.”

Although it’s long overdue, and buried in large part by the media machine, Stewart has finally received official credit (and hopefully financial settlement by 2009) for her prodigious contributions to both Hollywood, and the world for her ground breaking sagas, both the Matrix & Terminator franchises. Let us hope that this landmark ruling provides a measure of hope for other ripped off screenwriters seeking justice even if only by way of public recognition.

To echo her 2004 victorious press release:

‘The Matrix & Terminator movie franchises have made world history and have ultimately changed the way people view movies and how Hollywood does business, yet the real truth about the creator and creation of these films continue to elude the masses because the hidden secret of the matter is that these films were created and written by a Black woman…a Black woman named Sophia Stewart. But Hollywood does not want you to know this fact simply because it would change history. Also it would encourage our Black children to realize a dream and that is…nothing is impossible for them to achieve!’

We’d like to believe that the justice she received was not in name only, and she is able to reap the benefits of her enormous creative contributions.

Thursday, February 21, 2013

Nina Simone Birthday: Meshell Ndegeocello Releases Cover To Celebrate The Famous Singer (EXCLUSIVE VIDEO)

Nina Simone Birthday: Meshell Ndegeocello Releases 
Cover To Celebrate The Famous Singer 
(EXCLUSIVE VIDEO)




Today is the birthday of Eunice Kathleen Waymon, better known as the high-priestess of soul, Nina Simone. The great American crooner, a broad-ranging jazz and blues singer with a contralto like no other, would turn 80 years old if she were still alive today.

Born in North Carolina in 1933, Simone produced a number of blues and gospel-influenced tunes that addressed civil rights in the South. From "Mississippi Goddamn" to "Old Jim Crow," her lyrics openly criticized the racial inequality in America, a sentiment that was echoed in her acclaimed 1966 album, "Wild Is the Wind."

To celebrate the noted singer's 80th birthday, fellow American singer-songwriter and bassist Meshell Ndegeocello has unearthed another song made famous by Simone -- "Black Is the Colour (Of My True Love's Hair)." The Appalachian folk song became a part of Simone's standard repertoire, sung in the deep and muddled rhythms she mastered throughout her career.


Ndegeocello's version is a ghostly homage to Ms. Simone, set to a melancholy arrangement of rolling percussions and distorted guitars. Watch the exclusive premiere of the video above, and let us know what you think of the timely tribute in the comments section.


You can watch this while you wait for the Nina Simone biopic to hit theaters.

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Wednesday, February 20, 2013

Dr Claudette Carr: Where have all the (Black)/African intellectuals gone?


Dr Claudette Carr: Where have all the (Black)/African intellectuals gone?















We came across a great post written by Dr Claudette Carr on the lack thereof of African intellectuals. As Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, the young and brilliant Nigerian writer emphasized, Africans must tell their own stories or suffer the perils of the “Single Story.” But Dr Carr takes the conversation one step further by asking who are those telling African’s stories on the intelectual side. Dr Carr is the founding Director of the Jethro Institute for Good Governance (JIGG), wth over seventeen years experience lecturing in International and Community Development, Youth & Community Work, Social Work, and Social Policy, at Brunel, Birbeck, Lucerne University of Applied Sciences (Switzerland) and the University of Westminster. Here is here brilliant article on the subject, initially published on http://afritorial.com/

Celebrity Factor

So, I have also been thinking about what impact celebrity factor might have on the dearth of African intellectuals?

The white celebrity savior industrial complex is not about justice. It is about bolstering the egos of celebrities, often used as vessels for the industrial white aid complex engaged in service of elite capture of African self-determination. Central to this process of elite capture is the infantilisation of Africans on all levels: its government, its leaders (absolutely corrupt and beyond redemption); its children ( orphans bereft of the capacity for ‘care of the self’); its women ( unfit to mother the children, they so wantonly bring into this living hell); and its youth (a lost generation, devoid of vision, and bedeviled by the post-traumatic disorder – redolent in fragile/post-conflict fragile zones). This is the movie set the ‘white’ savior descends upon to re-enact their small acts of ‘compassion’.

The celebrity [do-gooder], embraces their mission on the continent with such self-righteous philanthropic zeal – rather like an obscurantist religious sect known as the bleeding Pharisees. In this guise, celebrity piety covers its eyes in the presence of African success stories, so as not to even look at those who succeed against all odds (much less acknowledge their existence) and ends up banging into walls. Their resulting blood and bruises become “red badges of courage” which they proudly display as proof of their piety. Is it any wonder why we have the mysterious cultic phenomenon of the ubiquitous kabbalistic celebrity red wrist bracelet, championed by Kabbala’s high priestess Madonna? Hmm …

Against this background, enter the Manchild project - KONY 2012. Here you have a bunch of high-tech multi-media, celebrity- philanthropist wannabes. They strike gold with their viral video – GET KONY, a resplendent, but equally pesky little African romp.

I ask myself: “Why do these young upstarts behave like they have just dropped a whole bunch of ecstasy tabs, and insist on treating the African Continent, as if it were one massive bacchanalian revel?”

Surely, it is time for a paradigm shift – enter the black celebrity vessel. Woe! and if I had a hammer!

If you raise a generation of youth on a narcissistic diet of dumb idols, such as Jay-Z, Beyonce,Lady Gaga, P Diddy, Rihanna, Justin Bieber, Kanye West and such like: reality tv junk - Pop Idols, American Idols, X-Factor, Sunday Best, Big Brother, and I’m a Celebrity Get me out of Here ; send them to church on Sunday to engage in the same lust for fame and attention, peddled by present day ‘Pulpit Pimps‘, is it any wonder, we reproduce a vacuous army of KONY 2012 clones?

If these celebrities (as has been widely reported), callously continued to party like it was 2099 earlier this year at the pre-Grammy function, whilst Whitney Houston’s dead body lay in a room above them, do we really think P Diddy, Rihanna et al give a hoot about the plight of “30,000″ dead Ugandan children?” As the proverbial saying goes, “There is a generation that are pure in their own eyes and yet is not washed from their filthiness.” Let’s face it, Kony 2012 should have been titled, “When Will I [Jason Russell] be Famous” – you have until December 31, 2012, to bring me said blood sacrifice! Madness begets more madness.
When will I be Famous…

If I were to come up with a modern day nemesis for KONY 2012, it would have to be: our unfettered lust for consumerism, at its zenith, during the Global North’s insatiable property boom, which led us into the global economic crisis we currently find ourselves in. Except, this time, it’s African souls that are being merchandised, and the boom continues – speculating over how we might “end poverty in Africa”…

Thomas Sowell in his book Housing Boom and Bust writes:

“Few things blind human beings to the actual consequences of what they are doing like a heady feeling of self-righteousness during a crusade to smite the wicked and rescue the downtrodden.“

But I digress.

Recently I came up with the novel idea of Development Factor and rather like the KONY 2012 narrative is simple. Those International Non-Governmental Organisations (INGOs), wishing to tout their projects and proposals to “help the poor” in Africa, in an extremely competitive market, would have to present their ideas to a panel made up of ‘authentic’ African Development Factor Judges. One or two celebrities might be thrown into the mix for good measure. Imagine the educational benefits of visualising the various stages of the the creative process, in setting up an NGO project and making this transparent to a now almost development savvy global audience? After all the bottom line is, every one wants recognition, everyone is looking for their fifteen minutes of fame, why not turn it into something more constructive, that democratises development, and truly engages the public and local/indigenous communities in more meaningful ways?

KONY 2012 has blown open a much-needed debate, which has been dominated by economists and politicians and development professionals for half a century Quite rightly, Invisible Children did not want to alienate it’s targeted audience with the technical vernacular of development experts, and the semantics of economic growth. However, paradoxically, the simplicity of the KONY 2012 narrative, revealed a void in knowledge about human behaviour – that is rooted in beliefs about what constitutes progress and development.

A New Breed of African Intellectuals

“The paradox of education is precisely this – that as one begins to become conscious one begins to examine the society in which he is being educated. ”
― James Baldwin

When all is said and done, one truth remains eternal here: we need a new breed of ‘Africanist’ scholars, who will pursue the task of their scholarly quest, with a pragmatic zeal that is second to none – as organic intellectuals, not ivory tower dim wits. Lest we forget a PhD doesn’t make you smart, or intellectual – there is no end of educated fools!

If you are vain and think the title will go nicely with your Dolce & Gabana tote, and your “in” circle of FB friends – go audition for X-Factor or F-Idols, and may you be forever confined to a wilderness, where you never receive manna from heaven – a shadow of an original thought of creativity – that might give you a clue how to get out. If your goal however, is to demystify – open eyes and ears to the mess this world is in, then may your path be filled with wonder, joy and the discernment, that knowledge puffs up, but LOVE builds up.

It never ceases to amaze me, how the powers that be continue to be the number one cheer leaders, in support of African buffoonery and intellectual inertia. One only need scratch the surface to discover the donors and sponsors, adept in this “Simon Cowell” type selection [read, schmoozing] or ‘we’re on the road to nowhere’ leaders. Of course, some Africans have internalised this longitudinal psychosis, enough to keep this diabolical pantomime of mediocrity on the road for themselves. And like all good pantomimes, let’s not mention colonialism /neo-colonialism, as the popular refrain goes [repeat after me]:

“Where is it?”
“It’s over, there”
“Where?”
“Behind you”….

I end as I begun: Where have all the African intellectuals gone?




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Kyle Phoenix
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Blog: http://kylephoenixshow.blogspot.com/2012
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