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Saturday, November 23, 2019

Why isn’t it considered bigotry to hate white people? by #KylePhoenix





It is but black bigotry, expressed as resentment or dislike has less effect on a white persons livelihood, family, income, living situation so we can mug face you all we want and dog your name out. But bigotry at say Facebook affects hiring practices; bigotry in the court system means mandatory sentencing; bigotry at a school means potentially bad grades, dropping out, suicide.
Black bigotry means you don't get put on the Jay Z 40/40, superduper slick text blast cause white folk weren't down with Marcy P or the Decepticons and remember the cookouts at PP. Whites don't know from that because it happened in an insular community so our exclusion of you from reunion or memorylaning them is a moot point.

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Kyle Phoenix is a teacher, certified adult educator, sexologist, sex coach and sexuality educator with over two decades of intensive experience. He studied at the University at Buffalo, SUNY, New York University, and Columbia University. He has worked, consulted and taught individuals and focused professional developments for the CDC, Department of Education, Gay Men's Health Crisis, New York City Department of Health, non-profits, Fortune 500 companies and unions. He began his career facilitating on-campus workshops addressing a wide range of sexuality and sexual health issues and then moved on to teaching at universities, non-profits, private groups and clients, hosting The Kyle Phoenix Show on television and multiple online webinars, including YouTube and Sclipo and writing extensively through his blog, Special Reports, articles and other print and E books in the Kyle Phoenix Series on relationships, finance, education, spirituality and culture. He lives in New York with his family.

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Monday, October 29, 2018

What do White Americans think about Black Americans?




Kyle Phoenix
Kyle Phoenix, Writer and student & Instructor at Columbia University


Great question but we're still at a space and time where white Americans give the "right" answers of flattening answers. Amazingly enough there is systemic institutional bias, George Zimmerman juries, irrational fears and bans and wall talk and yet trillions of white are just plumb dumbfounded at this aberration called racism but lordy when they see it do they just get steamed. Why it reminds them of the time they were moving amongst them minority folk and we saw the light of humanity and decency in their hearts, the hearts of the good white, the 17 trillion of them that live here in America who were busy the days of voter suppression referendum passed or the KKK still in existence with a network of other supremacy based organizations.

Lordy, lordy.
Oh how you just love our good food and music but didn't have time to get on that school to accelerate desegregation so that 2013 is when the last school in America was desegregate, sixty years after brown v ed because well you know all them good whites was busy. Do this take your children to black and Latino playgrounds on purpose, the further you have to travel will show you spatial race privilege and the more nervous you are at just that thought, if single, dress up and go alone to black clubs....that's what it feels like at job interviews or working surrounded by white folk...if you're worried for your safety considered how many white males have regularly killed minorities and the historical skyrocketing numbers of black men killing white children and women, look up the statistical data in your own area.
Bernadette Devlin, Cheney, Schwerner, Goodman, maybe a few politicians, white who look around their Thanksgiving dinner table and see lots of different kinds, when you go out of your to protest with black lives matter or just send a check, when you troll sites to spew anti-racist rhetoric, when you join the dozens of national groups to dismantle white privilege by sitting regularly with white folk who point out the difference to you. It never dawned on you that there could be such groups because white privilege allows you to anoint yourself without review by black people ethics and standards. Let our criteria demarcate you as racist -lite.
If the the thought of people of color judging you w on their experience just made you nervous, you just got a millisecond of being non-white in America .
Flattening is when you see "us" as all the same or god help us don't see race at him. Our minority butts pucker at that one. We are meant to be seen, not invisibled, in fact it is respectful to see us and talk to us and discourse and most importantly announce your confusion based on privilege.
When you flatten us to all the same, you're assuming the privilege to flatten as if there are things, bulky and bumpy that others should let be flattened at your nod....like culture, language, mores and values that might not jibe with white folk....like the pernicious attitude of black Americans to wage war on countries far away.
When you flatten with the hand of white privilege, what are you flattening us to? Just Americans, but wait most of us minorities have only been full, legal Americans by law for two generations and America's greatest profit to the estimated tune of 27 $ trillion dollars in unpaid work hasn't even been aligned to reparations yet hence the pockets of poverty, illness and faulty education throughout all minorities in America, all, including white minorities. To flatten to a default of....white?
Imagine, maybe, shocking and titty twisting as this might be maybe many of us dont want to be white.
Flattened folk from the white folk is passive racism and privilege.
What privilege?
You can wander in neighborhoods and your concern are the residents personal human crap not the full weight of the government through law enforcement stalking you, questioning you.
Go to a black or even an Asian neighborhood and wait for the police car to stop and ask if you're lost.
It's the constant suspicion, the fear of the suspicion, the confusion of the reality of possible suspicion.
Minority groups in America have such a confounded time with white minority folk....whooopsie, you do know you're raced and the minority too, right?....because there's such a Susie Q blindness and blitheness. Not because of your character, which you think we're talking about when j'accuse racism.....no were talking about your actions.
Look around your Thanksgiving table, look at your family album, or do this pick up your phone and see how many black you can invite to your home.
We're scoring not by your self congrats but by other races estimation of your level of white racism, the same way dogs are used to sniff out folk.
White folk, it probably seems like no matter what you do, how hard you work, the light in your heart you can't catch a break with the minorities surrounding you, huh?
Sound familiar? LOL


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Monday, July 23, 2018

Kyle Phoenix Answers: Why is the percentage of STDs so high among gay dudes?

Concentration and Lack of Concentration and, Inability to Concentrate

The CDC has narrowed that it isn’t necessarily abhorrent behavior that makes greater exposure to STDs but the concentration of people and then lack of concentrated attention.

Concentration: Sexual Networks
The logic for higher STDs, pointedly HIV throughout African Americans, Latinos and others vs. Whites has to do with sexual networks. I’ll use NYC as an example because that’s where I’ve worked for agencies and we dealt with this issue.

In Harlem there is a concentration of Black folk. Thereby a concentration of LGBT Black folk. Thereby a concentration of LGBT Black folk who are male.
We’ll use a 10 person Model.
Models?

Okay, that’s 8…2 others refused to be photographed.
Back to the point.
Within the network of 10 Black men, they all, whether through casual sex or long term relationships that have open monogamy boundaries or not (cheating) dip into each other’s wider sexual network.
Say that Chocolate Muffin on the right…no, the other one…yeah, him. John. He has 5 sexual partners a year, on average, in Harlem.
That may include Reggie, who is in the center.
Daryl who is towards the back.
Steve who is on the left.
Joey who is behind John.
And Harry who is the fine one on the end.
That’s John’s Sexual Concentration Network.

Then Reggie, not knowing John’s list, has sex with 4 men, even less, (Black LGBT folk tend to have lower promiscuity rates than Whites or Latinos).
But…
He gets with John.
He gets with Harry.
He gets with Joey.
He gets with Dennis (who refused to be photographed.)
That’s Reggie’s Sexual Concentration Network.

Daryl, towards the back, is more prolific and has 8 sexual partners a year.
He yay-yays with Steve.
He yay-yays with Harry.
He yay-yays with Reggie.
He yay-yays with Dennis.
He yay-yays with Lionel (who refused to be photographed due to his government job.)
He yay-yays with Daryl.
He yay-yays with John.
He yay-yays with Joey.
That’s Daryl’s’s Sexual Concentration Network.

You can see the correlate. Even if not explicitly aware of each other, the men are overlapping in sexual partners. So let’s say the current statistic of 50% of all LGBT Black men ending up HIV+ in there lifetime holds by concentrated geographic demographic—-places where STDs are most prevalent—-large cities, with high concentrations of LGBT folk.
Now flag 5 of the above 10 men as having an STD, not even necessarily just HIV. Now run the odds of how likely it is for them to have sex with an infected partner.

Conversely….would the ten non-Black models come in please?

Ah…the gentleman in the back row? Ah, he’s there for the advanced point. Okay.
This group of men, we’ll arbitrarily throw the 50% rate of some sort of STD infection at half of them too.
They don’t stay within their immediate network. While the Black LGBT group was more likely to concentrate sexually within the same network, the above group don’t rotate through 10 people, they rotate through 10 networks. Meaning they rotate through 10 different neighborhoods in NYC rather than just Harlem. They also may not discriminate in the same ways racially, socially, educationally. So instead of each of them having a network of each other, they have a network of 100 men. Of the 100 then only about 10% are infected.
So this above soggy sexy group has a 10% chance of infection vs the chocolate studs who have a 50%.
That’s Concentrated Networks.
The Advanced Point: the darker hued gentleman in the back has a greater chance of staying uninfected because if he simply operates within the sexual network of the 9 men around him, they’re expanded sexual network, insulates him through probability to infection.
Yes, interracial gay sex increases one’s chance of not catching an STD. I know, one hell of a counter programming banner, right?

Lack of Concentration: Women
This is how men take care of their health or don’t and what presses them to, or not. The greatest push towards comprehensive male health over the past few millennia has been this:

Wives. Women. We could expand this to Mothers/Sisters.
Men are pushed by women to be more conscious of their health by the women in their lives directly who are pushed by the concern by their love for their male partner, their concern for their own interdependent sexual health and the concern for the male’s longevity to help care for children.

This saucy number that a guy might meet at a parade, a bar, a rest stop, WalMart?
Oh, he’ll polish your apple, he’ll even ketchup your fries and slice your bagel but he doesn’t have the same level of concern for your well being now and in the future as a sexual encounter/partner and even as a long term partner he too may suffer for masculinity blindness that men, unless visibly dying, are strong. He doesn’t think about going to the doctor unless something is absolutely wrong and bleeding so he really doesn’t think about getting tested for STDs. Lack of regular testing means that there are at least 20% of LGBT males who are infected with something and don’t know it, so pass it on.

Heterosexuality on some levels promotes care for a partner because it could potentially lead to propagation. Homosexuality is very self centered because it leads to connection and companionship but not the same level of social pressure responsibility for or to a mate.

Literally the social nature of Concentration of men/sexual partners and the Lack of Concentration of women affects how LGBT males engage health care. Which is why you see so many vans outside of high concentration LGBT spaces to push the health care, STD screening to the forefront of people’s minds who may not think about themselves as “sick”, infected or read that as weak.

Interestingly enough, just a few blocks up from Harlem, in Washington Heights, where I live, a friend owned a night club/lounge. It was called No Parking. WH as a neighborhood is predominantly, at least, 75% Latino so the concentration of people to the club were Latino. It had the highest concentrated rate of infection of gonorrhea in the country, Washington Heights, at one point, because of the night club concentrating Latino males there.
And LGBT Latino males doing this…

(*This is actually a club in Queens, NY but No Parking pretty much looked like this…)
So they replicated a Concentrated Sexual Network like Black men have (increasing Black male HIV infection rates) and increased their gonorrhea infection rates.

Inability to Concentrate
The third challenge we found as an agency was the sex itself that men were having leading to STD infections. There is a huge gap in the sexual knowledge that LGBT folk, particularly males, have about their bodies and what they can do, can’t do, and how their bodies actually work.
With Black/Latinos males
  • the free NYC condoms would break and tear because Black and Latino penises tend to have more girth than their White or Asian counterparts. …which lead to more unprotected sex.
  • Or sex that, in the middle, became risky. Blacks and Latinos also tended to stop practicing safe sex once in a confirmed relationship——and then something happened, someone crept, they had a three-way, something—their partner had sex within their Concentrated Network and brought an infection back to the closed relationship.
  • the sexual acts preferred by, experienced by and offered by differing cultural groups affects and increases concentration of STDS. Gonorrhea happened a lot because of analingus/rimming, HIV infections due to anal penetration/bottoming, etc..
With Whites males who practiced safe sex were also more likely to be of a higher social class. Which translates to several greater advantages:
  • less of a reliance on “free” condoms so their condoms were of a better quality and more likely to accommodate their size
  • higher educated meant they would have a deeper/broader understanding of their own male bodies which strengthened their safety routines
  • better resources which translates to better health care by having health care insurance and more “health care” money which translates to seeing a doctor more because you can afford it and thereby being more exposed to a physician who would tell you about Prep, test you regularly and explain sexual safety.
  • multiply this exponentially throughout “neighborhoods”/networks and there will be more White men as a mass number who are less infected.
Men’s Inability to Not Engage
  • a society whether big or smaller—family, church, work—-that is less accepting of a man’s sexuality pushes him to have riskier behaviors for sexual pleasure.
  • sex is stress relieving so it will be done regardless of potential dangers as men are constantly pressured by testosterone to be sexual but are inhibited by the society around them not to be. LGBT communities offer something that only certain privileged men (younger, rich, single) in society get to have: unlimited amount of sexual partners every single day if one wants through casual encounters, night clubs and online hooks ups.
  • the majority of the sexual act itself involves the pink parts of the body and a penis—-exposed absorbent skin/mucous producing areas—-anus, mouth (gums, throat), cut skin, whereas comparably in heterosexual sex there is less pink part exposure to the male partner with a female partner to the best transmitter of STDs—the penis.

These three factors build, correlate, multiply and intensify the exposure, infection and risk of men who have sex with men by the very nature of their sexuality, what it concentrates, what it obviates and how it socially operates.





As a social tableau, seeing all of the correlates is fascinating in it’s complexity. But that complexity is what makes it difficult to change.


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Monday, July 2, 2018

Kyle Phoenix Answers: Do you think it’s true that all white people in the U.S. are racist? I know of a professor who teaches that and I can’t understand lumping all people of any characteristic together.

Kyle Phoenix Answers: Why are some white women attracted to only black men?



Historically the taboo and dominate positions white women could hold over black men. White women are still women in a patriarchal society, lacking position, power, property. As those things have slowly changed, women can now freely experiment. Women choose partners from a genetic material standpoint and a perception of strength, capacity to protect her and offspring, its lotto if he cam abundantly provide.
Black men have risen in education, prosperity, social power to near and sometimes greater position than white men. There is now a legal, socially sanctioned option.
It is biologically unnatural for us to live so close together and not mate.
Black people often phrase ending racism as less oppression but continue segregation. White phrase it ad a flattening to us all being some sort of nonthreatening white. What it will really be is so mixing and mating that we average each other out, as has happened in other countries, but Americans and European countries hold also a false genetic paradigm to race, that we're different types of humans. That paradigm is also adopted by people of color.
White women, privileged in society by being the closest to white men are now draining and redistributing white male power and that includes a generation or two that will absorb entitlement psychology as well.
Our next social dismantling are more mixed children from white and black women by choice not force or taboo power games. Men build a society but women shape it in their choices that breed and therefore produce the future.
The end of racism is as many of us greater melanin people performing inception in to the lighter until we're.....beige/gold. By 2200 if the Kardashians can stay role models for young women for another twenty years.

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