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Monday, November 12, 2018

Why do people say you have to work hard when any idiot born to rich parents can become a lawyer or physician? Answered by Kyle Phoenix

Why do people say you have to work hard when any idiot born to rich parents can become a lawyer or physician?

Kyle Phoenix, Writer and student & Instructor at Columbia University

There are no idiot doctors or lawyers—-that requires 7 to 10 years of education.

Even if they are born into privilege they still have to go to an objective college and pass objective tests. What privilege does is it makes subjective access to the best colleges and teachers far easier and more common.

What poor (mentality) people misunderstand is that wealth isn’t a ticket unto itself. It still requires effort. There’s a micro percentage of people who are wealthy who inherit it, most people earn it. And even if you’re wealthy you still have to learn how to manage and increase it.

We all have to work hard, it’s just in different fashions as we all have different circumstances and goals. We must all work hard to develop our talents and gifts and then we have to work hard to display/use them within society. Money is merely access and convenience or combined, convenient access. It makes that much easier but it doesn’t do the work for you.

In many ways, what keeps the poor trapped in poverty whether that be financial, social, mental, spiritual, emotional etc is their unfounded beliefs about what rich-wealth in any of those areas would look like.

What we’re often seeing of 80% of wealthy people is the BYPRODUCT of decades of specific work, in specific areas and constant multiplication of that. They did things like not have children early and went to school instead—-yes, crossed their legs and read books. Boring, dull but one of the two key points that eradicates poverty in a human beings life. Education and lack of children too early.

But poor people never want to hear that wealth is at Barnes & Noble or the local library for free—-they want to become the BYPRODUCT simply because they can see it. What you see is yes, a display f wealth, of expensive things but there’s a history, a blueprint to it that is often mundane.

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Kyle Phoenix is a teacher, certified adult educator, sexologist, sex coach and sexuality educator with over two decades of intensive experience. He studied at the University at Buffalo, SUNY, New York University, and Columbia University. He has worked, consulted and taught individuals and focused professional developments for the CDC, Department of Education, Gay Men's Health Crisis, New York City Department of Health, non-profits, Fortune 500 companies and unions. He began his career facilitating on-campus workshops addressing a wide range of sexuality and sexual health issues and then moved on to teaching at universities, non-profits, private groups and clients, hosting The Kyle Phoenix Show on television and multiple online webinars, including YouTube and Sclipo and writing extensively through his blog, Special Reports, articles and other print and E books in the Kyle Phoenix Series on relationships, finance, education, spirituality and culture. He lives in New York with his family.

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Why do I lose erection as soon as I penetrate someone anally? Answered by Kyle Phoenix

Why do I lose erection as soon as I penetrate someone anally?

Kyle Phoenix, Author of Multiple orgasm training Men, in its 3rd edition.

The Pressure

Pressure Pt. 1 - Sounds Of Blackness <<

There are two things that men don’t realize about anal sex.

Is that the anus has two muscle groups, the interior and the exterior muscle group that are essentially seized all day. Now the exterior muscles one can open and close by will but (pun!) the interior muscles are tighter and require mental concentration and patience to relax and open.
The penis goes through 4 Stages in an Erection Life Cycle

There’s Soft Arousal where there is flaccidity or it is pretty much being awakened. Normally men constantly have a state of minor arousal because of friction, pressure against the corona of the penis or against the skin, if uncircumcised. If seated and still, men generally aren’t being stimulated at all.
There’s Fuller Arousal where there’s actually stimulation to the penis/corona and the beginnings of an erection. Sometimes this is called The Heat Stage.
There’s then the Erection or Full Erection Stage. This is generally when a man’s penis is at it’s most solid for him based upon his health, and therefore, blood flow/vessel lack of blockage and age. The penis naturally is in a variety of positions as age progresses due to tensile strength, size and weight on a man. Generally the younger you are the closer it is to your stomach, then it lowers like a draw bridge until it more of hangs, even when hard. Penis size is also determined by weight not just length, you gain or lose 2–3 inches for every 35lbs one is over their “prime” weight to height ratio.
Finally there’s the Refractory Period or Transition. What’s interesting about transition, for the penile connoisseur, is that it happens in-between every stage after initial arousal.
Most people (men) think that you get aroused, you get hard, you ejaculate, you get soft, you rest, perhaps repeat. In fact what happens is you are naturally in soft arousal/nil, you go into transition, you go into fuller arousal, you go into transition again, you go to fuller arousal, you go into transition again, you go to full erection, you go back to fuller arousal, you go back to fuller erection.
This is because sex shouldn’t be frantic stimulation to get the penis to fuller arousal and then to immediate full erection to rush to a rapid ejaculating release and orgasm; sex, healthy sex is foreplay, touching, seductive, talking, stimulation, more foreplay, touching, erection, simulated penetration, frottage, erection, fuller erection, penetration, transition, fuller erection, penetration, arousal, foreplay, touching, kissing, transition, fuller erection. Within a healthy period of time the male penis goes through various states as attention and arousal are shifting and changing.
Ejaculation and Orgasm are two separate events. Children can have orgasms but not ejaculate because production hasn’t begun by a certain age (which is why all children play with themselves, even babies, they are sexually stimulating themselves to pleasure.)
In adulthood, men generally forget this about their own physiological experiences and assume because they are seemingly simultaneous, orgasm and ejaculation, they must be one, the same thing.
And two, that they always have to be together. Men can orgasm, multiple times in fact, continuously, without ejaculating. in fact it’s healthier. Think of them as two highway ramps on top of one another. Cars can go along either one but it isn’t necessary for the ejaculation ramp to be at the same speed as the arriving orgasm one.

Back to anal penetration.

Now that you understand the constant flux an aroused penis is going through you can see the crux of the issue. It isn’t always a fully erect penis or a completely relaxed interior/exterior muscled anus that is being co-joined to be penetrated. You could have a penis in Transition but not Full Erection or a tight interior anal muscle group that isn’t fully relaxed. It takes mental patience to distinguish what is going on with one’s body, a partner’s body and time the interaction, and therefore optimal erection time to penetrate a relaxed, accessible anus.
Lots of protein and green leafy vegetables help with the cleaning out of blood vessels so that can aid in a firmer erection. All leaning to bring one’ s self to fuller arousal and transition without aiming for full erection, gets the blood flowing to focus to a harder full erection.

In conclusion, it’s both the pressure, mental and physical.

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What are some rules to pass on to young men? on The Kyle Phoenix Blog

What are some rules to pass on to young men?

Kyle Phoenix, I have written dozens of books, taught thousands of relationship workshops.

Rules For My Brothers, Nephews, Friends, and Future Son’s

1. Never shake a man’s hand sitting down.
2. There are plenty of ways to enter a pool. The stairs ain’t one.
3. The man at the grill is the closest thing we have to a king.
4. In a negotiation, never make the first offer.
5. Act like you’ve been there before. Especially in the end zone.
6. Request the late check-out.
7. When entrusted with a secret, keep it.
8. Hold your heroes to a higher standard.
9. Return a borrowed car with a full tank of gas.
10. Don’t fill up on bread.
11. When shaking hands, grip firmly and look him in the eye.
12. Don’t let a wishbone grow where a backbone should be.
13. If you need music on the beach, you’re missing the point.
14. Carry two handkerchiefs. The one in your back pocket is for you. The one in your breast pocket is for her.
15. You marry the girl, you marry her whole family.
16. Be like a duck. Remain calm on the surface and paddle like crazy underneath.
17. Experience the serenity of traveling alone.
18. Never be afraid to ask out the best looking girl in the room.
19. Never turn down a breath mint.
20. In a game of HORSE, sometimes a simple free throw will get ’em.
21. A sport coat is worth 1000 words.
22. Try writing your own eulogy. Never stop revising.
23. Thank a veteran. And then make it up to him.
24. If you want to know what makes you unique, sit for a caricature.
25. Eat lunch with the new kid.
26. After writing an angry email, read it carefully. Then delete it.
27. Ask your mom to play. She won’t let you win.
28. See it on the big screen.
29. Give credit. Take the blame.
30. Write down your dreams.
31. Learn the power of forgiveness by using it as much as you need it yourself.
32. Pray before every meal.
33. Always open the door for a woman and allow her to walk in first.
34. Get a passport and use it once a year.
35. Be Humble
36. Don't dismiss women as too emotional, weak or incapable of logic. They can be your strongest partners and best friends.
37. Trust in God's plan, you won't always have the answers.
38. Every person and situation is different, never approach them the same. Life isn't cookie cutter.
39. Your network is your net worth
40. Your most valuable resource is your time, don't let people abuse it.
41. Acknowledge your ancestors and research your families history.
42. #Legacy
43. Your desire to give should always exceed your expectation to receive.
44. Think before you speak. Words do hurt.
45. Master your Money. Never let Money master you.
46. Be You. Do You.
47. You are loved.
48.) Put God First in your life. God first, then you, then family. Pray, meditate, and try not to stress. (Pop’s rule)
48. Always take care of your mother.

I learned a lot from The Wealth Choice: Success Secrets of Black Millionaires.

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