My ex was hairy like this. Actually more so. And he was Turkish too. He was actually a Prince of the Ottoman Empire and rich as cream….but that’s another tale. He would regularly go to get waxed because it was such a pain with clothing and sweating and warm weather.
In workshops when men start discussing their preferences about men and hair, I look around the room and you know what I see? An overwhelming amount of manbitches who are single, depressed, lonely, suicidal, doing degrading sexual acts in parks, at home, in nightclubs for just a bit of a connection and praying to some invisible gay Jesus for a perfect man.
What I did with my ex, was, I accepted his body. I accepted him. I found him attractive. I didn’t even know about his hair issues until we were living together and it was time for him to go in for a waxing.
As a reaction to not being accepted, gay men create a boatload of “unacceptable” traits in men and then sit pining alone wondering where love is. It’s with hairy guys, short guys, guys a few pounds overweight, guys with a lisp, guys who make less than 50k a year, guys who are effeminate. Gay men create all of these smoke screen judgments because there’s a dissonant, dichotomous thought Occurring.
I am okay with a same-sex sexual person. (Hence all the sexualization and sexual acts one is capable of performing.)
BUT
I am not okay to have myself fulfilled as a same-sex desirous person…..because I don’t know how to do that. Society has kicked me out of the relationship training cave and the teachers (women) are not present in my relationship. Because I don’t know how to do this, easily, I have to find a way to point at some trait about men that says it’s not me but them that have ruined our coupling.
So gay men come up with alllllllllllllllllllll kinds of bullshit.
When men learn to integrate both beliefs they tend t end up in relationships, which help you solidify and strengthen your assurance of their validity. When men learn, as women have for millennia, that a good husband is what you can get, not a perfect one, but a good one beats a non-existent one—-and that there are things you accept in another human being that has nothing to do with your absolute, pie in the sky, let me buy an android sex toy model, you end up happy.
Have you seen some of the schmoes women are with? Who are good, loving men and fathers?
Without a pointedly reproductive and socially accepted context (husband, father, mate, provider) for a man to assign to a male partner, it becomes this nitpicking. When was the last time you validated a gay man as a husband? He’s a damn good husband. He really works hard to make sure his husband is well taken cared of? He’s such a good father to their children?
Or do you sexualize the man as his sexuality?
That sexualization both externally and internally has gay men, twisted and at gyms and shaving…and I’m not even going to make the clear connection to gay porn as the only mass education tool for gay relationships and how shaved all those dudes are.
Hairlessness is not something that we do as humans.
When my ex shaved, I had, of course, noticed he had more body hair than me….and the teddy bear…. but it wasn’t a deal breaker.
What it was was part of my passe attitude that his body was his and different than mine and the point was to enjoy and uplift each other, not tear apart based on a biological function he could manage but not control.
Smile, Kyle
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