These
Special Reports came about as a
request from the many African American and Latino men that I’ve worked with in
workshops, thousands in fact. The
challenge of being a teacher is that I can only be physically in one place at a
time. The largest workshop I’ve run was
well over 200 people but for these specific, personal discussions, I generally
prefer to run groups of about 6 to 35 men.
The reasoning is both obvious and compassion-based. Too many people and the conversation becomes
unwieldy and most importantly men, specifically men of color, rarely have the
opportunity to ask an objective expert about their sexuality related
experiences and get back a direct answer.
This
might seem hard to believe with the internet, men having friends and
relationships but often I am facilitating a workshop and men in their 20s, 30s,
40s, 50s, 60s and older will ask me (and the group) questions that are on some
level socially basic when compared to heterosexuality. Questions about the male body, being in a
relationship, completely alien to them, to many of the men in the room, when
compared to men who are heterosexual.
Shame, ostracism, poverty, racism, homophobia, fear, and (lack of)
education impact men who have sex with
men (MSM) in a multitude of ways, generally negatively leading to
alienation, isolation, depression, excessive pleasure seeking, self
destructiveness, and to an extreme, mental illness and suicidal tendencies.
In
my teens I was fortunate to have supportive counselors at school to discuss
sexuality with. I was fortunate to be
able to afford to buy books on sexuality to answer technical questions and
explore ideas. Further into my 20s, away
at college, I was fortunate to be able to be authentic and transparent about my
identity, having asked, answered and investigated those questions prior to
university. However I met and was
friends with countless men and women who were confused, questioning or closeted
about their sexuality. What concerned me
most were the dangerous emotional and physical situations they were in due to
family structures, religious beliefs, lack of information. The overwhelming majority of these men and
women were African American and Latino.
Years
later when I began counseling and teaching specifically to MSM of color at
non-profits and was tasked with designing programming and curricula for them, I
turned to my library around male sexuality and discovered that bluntly, it was
all White, from a White perspective, written to a White male audience,
reflecting multiple White men engaging with one another, focused almost
exclusively on a homo-normative
valuing of the singular term of “gay”, as young, happy, vibrant White men. I turned to my non-White audience, teeming
with questions and issues and realized that a lot of their problems stemmed
from this dissonance between sexuality, information, race and inclusion.
“But aren’t all people the same? And does your work then exclude White
people?” one naturally would ask.
Yes
and no.
We’re
all biologically, therefore physically (and to some degree psychologically),
the same as humans so there is of course information through all of my works
that covers biological, physical, mental and social areas on men and their
interactions, no matter race. I try to
be specific in highlighting and
integrating non-men of color into these works (such as work on interracial
dating, etc) rather than the reverse: minimizing that there are social,
emotional and cultural distinctions for African American, Latino and other men
of color as such an exclusion now readily and rampantly exists in personal
identity/relationships texts on sexuality.
In terms of culture, socialization, sexuality, identity, spirituality,
environment and lived selves, having been, as a man of color, socially and
professionally steeped in many cultures, we’re vastly different. This doesn’t mean that we can’t co-exist,
co-habitate or even unite for common rights but it does mean that the old trope
of people as being in a melting pot is egregiously wrong when it comes to men
of color and sexuality. Isn’t it better
for us all, to be seen as individual, self motivating and defining fruits and
vegetables in a salad, a tossed salad, if you will? All possible puns intended.
It
naturally followed then, as I was teaching these initial workshops with men of
color, and seeing the confused effects, that they were being given perhaps the right dosage of the wrong medication. Following
the analogy, there had been no personal examination of them allowing for their feedback and yet they were
expected to have the same outcomes, results and liberation as White gay
men. The information, particularly
around safe sex, socialization, relationships, sexuality, manhood and financial
consideration was only being designed for White men to interact with other
White men…and ostensibly other men of color who could access the information or
approximate their identity close enough to find it useful. I estimate this to be about 10% of men of
color.
What
about the African American and Latino man, at least here in America, who
doesn’t believe that a healthy identity for them is in mirror lockstep to White
gay men?
I’m
convinced through my years working in LGBT organizations that sexually
transmitted infection rates are so high among men of color vs. White men
because of less of an informational/social support system for a
non-heterosexual identity in communities of color and lack of support in White heterosexual and then homosexual
communities, a triple whammy of stigma and ostracism.
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After
several years of amending pre-existing materials, inserting images of men of
color, trying to bridge the gap and generally colorizing my lessons with the
invaluable input, information and feedback from my clients and participants, I
came upon the understanding that while men of color had produced many works of
visual art, fiction and health related literature regarding sexuality, there
was very little that was doing what I was having packed workshops around: sex,
sexuality, relationships, finances, life choices, parenting, love, breaking up,
aging, fetishes, personal advancement, and entrepreneurship targeted at MSM of
color. At my height for workshops it was
standing room only, three days a week, upwards of 200+ men. I was photocopying my handouts to the
financial chagrin of the organizations I worked for, personally buying and
giving to participants some of the better more culturally democratic books I’d
found. It slowly dawned on me that the
emails I was constantly getting from other cities around the nation from men
who’d enjoyed the information from my television show, online videos, and
blogs, meant that for the thousands I’d met and taught in just New York City,
there were multiples of hundreds of thousands more, without hub organizations,
who wanted information as well.
The
work then has become to package good,
useful, healthy information, much as how I design workshops. Without bias to ideas and practices that I
might not agree to but maintaining the same non-judgmental attitude I maintain
in my workshops. This non-judgment comes
from the fact that I personally believe that sexuality is unique within you,
that you are divinely blessed with it, that it is not for question or sanction
beyond consent and excluded from unfair manipulation/coercion. I believe that no one’s sexuality is up for
question by another—that what and how you identify as today and what you do and
identify as tomorrow is perfectly fine, as long as you notify those of us with
whom you’re engaging and need to know.
I
also believe one of the major divergences culturally speaking stems from the
wider socialized ramification of White gay men wanting to be acceptable and
maintain privilege from a White culture as a dominant culture base, therefore there’s both a rebellious freedom
that manifests as a desire to explain and justify one’s sexuality that borders on
the obsessive. But this modality follows
the ontology (nature of reality),
epistemology (system of knowing),
methodology (gathering of information),
axiology (ethics and values)
psychological paradigm of the dominant
culture: quantification, explanation, qualification. Cultures and ethnicities throughout history,
that were not exclusively of a Westernized paradigm as we know it now, have
always had the content of non-heterosexuality and context for other than simply
heterosexual sexualities. And they
haven’t included the near-neurotic public flagellation of self exposure to gain
social acceptance. Dealing with that
demand from the White gay community, often alienates men of color because our praxis to the Universe as a whole, not
just society, is more community based and spiritually connected.
I
know, that’s a headful.
Simply
put, people of color are more socialized to the We and how do I relate into the We; White people tend to see I
as the Westernized democratic and rugged individual I, and question how the I fits
into the We of community or they
leave and form new and appropriate communities to satisfy their I.
People
of color steeped in traditions of We
carry our communities and may visit or settle or annex other communities but
we’re always of the We of African
American, Southern, Northern, Latino, Dominican, Mexican, la familia, etc.---we’re far more attached to the origin community, which makes it harder
to abandon our communities when they notify us as to what they exclude. We, people of color, tend to abdicate our
public identity for community inclusion because we’ve also been taught by our
own communities of birth how dangerous it is to be without a community or to be
exclusively among White people.
Sexuality for men of color is intertwined with race and has to be
developed, answered and lived in accordance with that basic social mindset,
before, with, and past it, in order to transcend it.
The
Universe or spiritual contextualization of ourselves comes from such an emphasis on spiritualized identification
to identity within communities of color whether directly through churches/religion
or more generally, through taught practical awareness of a relationship to a
Creator. I discovered in years of
workshops with men (yes, sometimes women) that sexuality was often spoken of in
spiritual terms and far more fluidic in regards to the sexuality and gender of
partners. The language of
heterosexuality, homosexuality or bisexuality is science based---the external
examination, quantification and qualification of the human being to an
experience, again through an ontological examination from the dominant
culture. However I’ve found that the
fluidity that men of color can experience is because of the internalized
identification of self connected to spirit and the dissonance for us comes
from a pseudo scientific labeling
brought to explain and quantify to physical actions. Many men talked about being DL, freaking, getting down, being in the
Life as action but wouldn’t accept labels of homosexual to their
self/sexuality/internal identity but would to their actions. They would then
further identify their spiritual selves, their inner selves, as
multi-dimensional which align with the other indigenous cultures, such as
Native Americans having terms like
two-spirited.
The
praxis of basic identification of self to
the community, self and the Universe
can be often vastly different, occasionally similar, or even rarely, nearly the
same, when people of varying racers, cultures and ethnicities discuss sexuality
in relationship to self. Curiously, or maybe not so much if one
considers society’s set-up, I’ve noted how people of color abstain, remove or
default in public settings (including, interacting or being observed by White
people) around sexuality identification and articulation. Privately or among others of their same
culture and ethnicity, sometimes it’s far more complicated than simply gay.
To that end there’s the emergence of the term same gender loving, which describes, yes, the action but also has deeper connotative meaning in regards to
include the inner multi-faceted identity,
community attachment, and spiritual component. In further writings, I’ll tackle this
distinction and articulation more.
To
the understanding that there is a broader understanding
of sexuality for men of color in each of these books and Special Reports, I include Add Ins that supplement what in the
digital/print industry have been labeled “special reports”, which historically
has come to be in size, approximately 10 pages.
The
purpose of the Add Ins is one, the wide expanse of men these reports go out to
in paperback and digital form allows for deeper engagement on multiple issues
then just the titled work; two, the edification of men of color who may come
across them; and thirdly, to precipitate and encourage discussion within the individual, within friendships,
relationships or small groups of men around good,
useful, accurate information. The
Add Ins generally fall into three to five sections:
1.
Give
clear definition to the male body as a basic lesson and what it can and cannot
do in relationship to itself and other male bodies;
2.
Clearly
define and outline what sexual protection looks like in objects (condoms,
lubes, etc.) and what sexually transmitted infections (STIs) exist, their
symptoms and potential treatments;
3.
Clearly
define terms around sex and sexuality (this is an organic and ever growing and
developing list, please feel free to send in others you’ve heard or known---one
of the most fun aspects of workshops I facilitated as an undergraduate student
was empowering a room to list every questionable, profane, fun, silly or
obscure sex and sexuality term they could);
4.
With
direct regards to men of color building relationships with themselves, others
and their communities financially, I wanted to include as basic overview of
terms and terminology. At first glance
it might seem out of place but non-heterosexual men tend to have more
discretionary income however men of color have historically had less
opportunity to garner and therefore enact a level of financial education. What
better place to put a substantial chunk and understanding of money and its uses
then into the hands of men, who through the very act of obtaining this book are
empowering themselves?;
5.
Lastly,
a pretty comprehensive list of the additional Special Reports and books I’m
working on, have published or can recommend as useful to the growth, and
authorization of men of color to live full, romantic, sexual, healthy and
prosperous lives.
None
of my works is meant to be an explanation of men of color to the masses, we’re
simply too individualized and complex for any work to do that. What my work is mean to do is provide access,
context and information for men of color as they choose how, when and with whom
to share themselves, through their spirit, identity and sexuality. I believe that what you know and believe:
your ideology, plus the tools to free or liberate one’s self, move you to
personal mastery or power.
Simply
put: Ideology + Liberation = Power.
Enjoy and let me know what you think!
Special Report # 1: Anal Sex for
Men with Men
This detailed special
report focuses on the sexual anatomy, health and sexual positions of sex with a
man. With concise language and fun suggestions for exercises this special
report is a compact info source for you to spice up, invigorate or explain the
complexities of sex with another man. You'll get the help and answers that you
might find difficult to ask friends and definitely might not feel comfortable
asking a lover. Empower yourself and enjoy yourself!
Special Report # 2: Why Tops Don’t Care, Why The
Bottoms Are Crazy and the Versatiles Lie
Ever
wondered why all the men you meet, want to date, fall in love with all seem to
have sexual issues? You thought that sexual attraction to men would be the
major hurdle and yet they seem to have problems with what position they, what
position they want to be, what position they like, what position they don't
like and what position they want you to be (or not be)! And if they know, they
sometimes lie about it. Why is that?
Kyle Phoenix has amassed a quick,
fast, detailed resource to answer those questions.
Special Report #
3: Bisexual Homosexuals and Homosexual Heterosexuals
Your natural inclinations, thoughts
and experiences are valid no matter your age, gender or race and this report
outlines why. Specifically focusing on how race and culture are affected and
influenced by society and what a person would look and feel like with a broader
understanding of their selves. This
Special Report will: Help you see how your race/cultural background affect your
sexuality. Help you define your sexuality Help you define and understand the
sexualities of others Give you tips for how to see sexuality Provide you with
information and resources about ways to have better and more satisfying sex You
need this because confusion around who's a what and why they're that what ruins
the chance for lasting love and happiness.
Special Report # 4: Gay, Bi, Same
Gender Loving Couples and Money: Dating, Courtship and Living Together, Level 1
First
comes love then comes marriage..........no wait, then comes bills, student
loans, the IRS, rent, the mortgage, Visa, MasterCard, your cell phone, his cell
phone, entertainment, partying, movie tickets, dinners out, new shoes, a flat
screen TV, the cable bill and then love? Wait, wait, wait, before you're
overwhelmed and run away from a potentially Good Man, let's take it slow and
break it down. First comes asking each other out then comes your very first
discussion about money---which pays for the first date? Who pays for the second
date? No relationship can get off the ground until you talk about money. What
about trips together? Who pays? How much? When are you officially a couple and
mixing money, buying each other gifts, helping the other out of jams? Men Who
Have Sex with Men don't have the benefit of gender and society to coach them on
how to negotiate the resource we must all use, money. Here in this intense,
informative Special Report there's a wealth of information from other couples,
glossaries of common and advanced financial terms, links to IRS information,
home buying information, loans, job seeking, entrepreneurial pursuits and
explanations.
Special Report # 5: How To Satisfy A Top
He
wants it. He wants you. You know it. He knows it. But he doesn't just want the
normal A,B,C, he wants you to make an effort, to treat him special, to teach
him a thing or two. Can you do that? With this quick guide you can. You'll
learn things that a survey of hundreds of Tops spoke about liking, needing,
wanting from Bottoms and Versatile men. You'll learn where to touch him, for
how long, why and how to convince him to let you do that thing he's never even
considered before.....and then you know what? He'll go out of his way to
satisfy you.
Special Report # 6: How To Satisfy A Bottom
You want it. You want
it the right way though. You want him to understand white it takes to be a
Bottom to do what you do, to take pleasure in it. Or maybe you've decided it's
time to try bottoming out. There's a right way and wrong way, right? There are
things to be careful of, to ask for, to learn how to do with your own body,
right? Right. And all of the tips, tricks, secrets and feelings that a Bottom
goes through are in here. Check it out. Then go out and do it.
Special
Report # 7: Discreet, Down Low and Not Out
Today's word is
discreet. Men use it as a descriptor of identity of who they are separate from
gay or homosexual. It's about what they do. Who they're willing to do it with.
And what the immediate ground rules are, all in one word." "Get
down." "Down low." "In the life." "Do that
thang." "Make it happen." "Chill." "Mess
around." Masculine, straight act, maybe even married---how to manage that
man? How do you find a man if you are married and....discreet? How does a whole
lifestyle work behind the veil of discreet? Where do you go when you need to
know the signals, signs, strategies and expectations for maintaining a
relationship with these kinds of men? You come to the source of the best and
most up to date information. You come to Kyle Phoenix.
Special Report # 8: Life Stages,
0 to 21 Years Old, Level 1
If
you are or know someone between the ages of 0 to 21, who is African American or
Latino, and they have questions about male sexuality---bisexuality,
homosexuality, heterosexuality, masculinity, femininity and overall
sexuality---then this is a fantastic resource! You'll learn about how to date,
how to hook up, how to court someone, how to start and maintain a relationship.
You'll also learn how to start and begin a job/career, how to plan out your
education, how to buy your first car, your first home, managing money and
credit and even starting your own business. This book is designed to answer all
of the pressing questions around not only sexuality but also designing your
life, your future.
Special Report # 9: Life Stages,
21 to 40 Years Old, Level 2
You’re legally, socially and
hopefully, emotionally an adult now! Now
what? Covering everything from money to
dating; family to love and relationships Level 2 in Life Stages focuses on what
bi, gay and same gender loving men can look forward to, plan for and avoid in
their first 20 years of adulthood.
Special Report # 10: Life Stages,
40 to 60 Years Old, Level 3
You’ve
turned 40 and you’re in the prime of your adulthood and manhood! But you’ve heard about mid-life crisis and
you’re not sure that this next stage of your life is all that it’s cracked up
to be because the focus for bi, gay and same gender loving men seems to be on
youth, youth, youth. Yet aren’t you now
the most capable and productive that you’ll ever be? Yes, you are!
And this book will show you how to measure, actualize and most
importantly enjoy the most productive and prosperous stage of a man’s life.
Special Report # 11: Life Stages,
60+ and Beyond, Level 4
The
world has changed! Your father’s 60
years old is no longer what it has to be for me. You’re fit, healthy and of sound mind, you’ve
got 10, 20, 30, maybe even more years ahead.
What should you be focused on?
What should you go back and do over from the past? What new adventures are out there for
you? More money, more comfort, more
creativity, more sex, even? In this
brave new world, where age is rapidly becoming just a number you’re finding
that 60 is the new 40…what are you going to do?
Well, I have some suggestions for you…..
Special Report # 12: How and Why
To Hire or Become an Escort
You,
within your divine sexuality, acting safely and consciously, can have
recreational sex without shame, guilt or self-consciousness. To that end you
have a right to pursue enjoying your sexuality with another. Used healthily
with mutual respect, an escort can be a delightful addition and expansion of
the exploration of one's sexuality. And if one is so inclined, one can find an
amazing, profitable outlet in working as an escort. However both client and
escort should be aware of the highs and lows of such choices. In this in-depth
guide from Kyle Phoenix, he brings his years of counseling with clients,
escorts and massage therapists, coupled with frank knowledge about the body,
negotiation, and concerns that all involved need to consider and answer before
engaging in this lucrative and sexually stimulating field.
Special Report # 13: How to Give
Olympic Level Oral Sex
You
might have even been doing it for years but have you advanced to being able to
incorporate all of the latest trips, tips and advice into Olympic level oral
sex. Do you know that it's not a job but a blowpleasure? If you don't think
book will teach you just that. From where to touch (besides the penis), to how
long, how hard and why with detailed pictures and instructions you and your
partner will have hours upon hours of fun trying out different positions,
actions and strategies. Kyle Phoenix will teach you things that will take you
from the amateurs to Olympic level in one session.
Special Report # 14: Mastering
Online Dating for Fun, Sex and Relationships
So
many men are online…but is it for you?
You’ve heard positive and negative stories about Adam 4 Adam, Grindr,
Jack’d and BGC Live but you’re also still single and clubs and “meet cutes” in
the supermarket just aren’t working out.
What’s a bi, gay, same gender loving man to do? The problem isn’t the internet; it’s how you
interact with it. As of 2008, 50% of all
couples met online. It’s not the enemy;
it’s a useful tool to get you out there whether you’re asleep or awake for
those special someone’s to find you.
There’s a whole strategy to creating profiles that don’t just lead to
sex, asking for sex if that’s what you want or building a genuine intimacy
relationship---all it takes are some easy to teach skills, a willingness to
allow the internet to be a part of your dating-mate search and you’ll find new
friends, great dates, and true loves are just a keystroke away.
Special Report # 15: Developing
Intimacy Between Men
You
want to be close to a man. You want him
to care for you, to think of you to hold you beyond just sex. In this report learn how to develop, sustain
and re-ignite real intimacy between bi, gay and same gender loving men.
Special Report # 16:
Communication
Everyone
says the key to a successful relationship is communication but what if you
don’t know how to communicate begin with?
Where should you start? What’s
too much truth?> Where are boundaries
at? Learn how to have a discussion about
the easy stuff, the rough stuff, the taboo stuff and the stuff neither of you
want to talk about.
Special Report # 17: Interracial Relationships and
Sex for Men
If
you’re expressing your sexuality and it isn’t heterosexual, can crossing racial
lines be far behind? Why should you, why
should you? Are all men the same or are
White men so different that you can’t be attracted t and loved by one without
the history of racial unrest and animosity creep in? Can a White man love a man of color without
imposing ideas of entitlement and privilege?
How do you navigate and negotiate he rocky roads of your own
internalized racism and discrimination to come out as a loving human being and
couple?
Special Report # 18: Monogamy, Cheating and Men
All
men cheat. That can’t be true. Then why does it seem that so many bi, gay
and same gender loving men do? In this
in-depth guide and analysis, Kyle Phoenix goes at the core of one of his most
packed workshops and constantly asked questions. He’ll teach you how to cheat-proof your
relationship and prevent your own wandering eye.=
Special Report # 19: No, Fats, No Fems, No Strings,
No Imperfections
Online
ads, commercials, nightclubs, in person men and even sex parties seem to
constantly be yelling out: “No fats and no fems! No strings! No imperfections!” How then can
you connect with a man as a bi, gay or same gender living man when the demands
are so high? Have men gone crazy or are
they using these standards as the new discriminatory marker? More importantly what can you do to meet Good
Men, genuine men who are interested in you and not some Adonis or
perfection?
Special Report # 20: The Art of the Hook Up
Have
you noticed that suddenly bi, gay and same gender loving men have gone all
puritanical about their sex lives? What
about if you change that for yourself and decide when you want to be sexual,
that sex is good and fun and your divine right?
Sex is pleasurable and there’s no reason why you shouldn’t safely enjoy
as much as often as you choose. With a
focus on being sex and sexuality positive and encouraging, this erotic guide
details out how to have great, fun, spontaneous sex without a date or a
relationship having to be the outcome.
Special Report # 21: Where The Single Men Are Really
At!
Can’t
seem to find a man? I know where they’re
at, I’m going to tell you and more importantly I’m going to tell you how to
approach them, get his number (or give yours) and seal the deal. It can be fun, easy and takes less time than
you might expect…and most importantly doesn't involve standing by a bar or a
wall in a nightclub.
Special Report # 22: Same Gender Loving, A Primer
You’ve
heard it constantly being thrown around: same gender loving, same gender
loving, same gender loving. Men of color
seem to be using it instead or homosexual or gay. What does it mean? Where does it come from? How do you know if it fits you? In this in-depth exploration, you’ll learn
what SGL is and whether it fits you in how you feel inside, what you do, whom
you love and are attracted to and most importantly, how you can then fit back
into your cultural community that might not have room for homosexual or gay men
of color.
Special Report # 23: How to Be
More Masculine and Attract Men
No
fats and no fems! Only masculine
wanted! They can’t be talking about you,
can they? What is masculine? What is feminine? Is this whole idea just some silly construct
created by insecure bi, gay and same gender loving men or is this something you
can turn around--- honestly identify the hits and misses within yourself, work
on and more importantly attract masculine men with? It’s not as hard as you might think---you
just have to understand what men are really saying with no fats, no fems,
masculine only; see yourself clearly and not be disappointed with the man you
take home or terrified that you’re going to say or do the wrong “non-masculine”
thing and lose that special guy!
Special Report # 24: How to
Change A Man
He
would be so perfect if he would just take your advice and make some small
changes, right? If only he would listen
to you and acknowledge that you have some insights and foresight that he
lacks, you could be so good together.
But how do you get him to listen?
Packed with insightful strategies, tips, tricks and guidelines for
motivating, convincing and cajoling men with love, respect, intimidation and
intensity, this book will teach you how to change his mind and your own about
what you can change, don’t want to change and what’s worth fighting over.
Special Report # 25: Sex Addiction
You
like the feeling, the taste, the smells, the sensations, the sights of a
man. You find yourself in the evenings
searching clubs or online for men. Your
weekends are filled with escapades that would make professional sex workers
blush. Are you a sex addict? Or are you just a normal horny man? In this report we distinguish the two and
give a checklist to maintain, suggestions to act out and questions to ask
yourself to find if you (or a partner) are addicted to sex…or just having fun
with it.
Special Report # 26: Love Addiction
Everyone
wants to love but what happens when it gets out of hand? What happens when you go too far? What happens when you find yourself giving so
much to get so little in return? Are you
a bad person? Or are you just addicted
to love? In this report we cover how to
identify love addiction, what love really is and where you may’ve gone wrong in
your understanding of both. Also you’ll
learn the difference between sex, dating, courtship, patience, stalking and
addiction. You’ll no longer feel
powerless and used as you learn how to focus yourself; stop yourself and more
importantly, target yourself towards the right man.
Special Report # 27: Polyamory:
From Triads to Quads to Orgies
Everyone
seems to think that a relationship should only be between two men. Btu what if you realize you’re not built that
way? What if your emotional and sexual
appetites want…more? How do you
negotiate an honest polyamorous relationship with men (and maybe even women) to
guarantee mutual satisfaction among you all?
What if you have a partner and you want to occasionally integrate a
third or go to swingers’ parties or even an orgy together or solo? This intensely honest report will help you
navigate the differences between sexual experimentation, orientation and
inclination for yourself and others.
Special Report # 28: Fatherhood/Parenting
“Daddy!”
Does your heart yearn to hear that
word thrown out to you by your child? Do
you have children from a previous
relationship and you’re now trying to figure out how to integrate your
sexuality/another relationship and your past?
Whether it’s from biology, surrogacy, adoption, foster care, or informal
parenting---learn the ins and outs, the challenges and the resources available
for you to make such a life changing decision to create a legacy that those you
parent will be proud of.
Many
men of color struggle with sex, drug, alcohol, and food addictions---are you
one of them or are you in a relationship with one? In this report we focus on how to identify addiction
in yourself or another man and have a frank discussion on the new norm of
African American and Latino men who are bi, gay or same gender loving
struggling with addiction and where to get help. This report could save your life or the life
of someone you love!
Special Report # 30: Pornography:
The Good, The Bad and The Color Lines
Is
it unnatural to watch, enjoy and get off from pornography? What’s the danger? Is it debasing to men and women? What can you learn from it? In fact when polled many bi, gay and same
gender loving men admit to learning the ins and outs of their sexuality from
porn. In this in-depth Special Report we
focus on the types of porn and their uses and most importantly how to integrate
it in a healthy manner into your life and relationship.
Special Report # 31: Start an
EBay/Amazon Business Earning $50,000 Part Time for Only 1 Dime
Before
I started writing books and producing a television show I sat at home making
$50,000 a year on the internet. In this
fast up to date guide, I explain to you how I did it and how you, with no cash,
can do the same using Amazon.com, EBay, Facebook, Craigslist in your spare
time. Also I include as an added
resource lists of instructional materials and websites that taught me how to
increase my business skills and make even more money, all in my pajamas from
the comfort of home with just a laptop and a printer!
Special Report # 32: Budgeting
Money, Tax Time Tricks and Tips and Credit Clean Up
It’s
tax time! Sometimes it can feel that way
year round. But suddenly as the laws of
the nation have changed you realize that there might be taxes, costs and tax
deductions that you as a bi, gay or same gender loving man have never
considered before. In this in-depth
guide you’ll get a fast overview of the tax filing process with step by step
questions for you to ask as well as scenarios as an employee, business owner or
parent that you can consider and infuse into your financial actions this year
and in the future to get the maximum returns and protections possible.
Special Report # 33:
Entrepreneurship: Consulting, Self- Employment and Starting a Business
You've
decided that it’s time to strike out on your own, to start a small business and
take your chances on being your own boss, being more creative, making more
money! But first you need to understand
the pitfalls and mountaintops of challenges ahead. With a fast guide like this one, some
resiliency and perseverance you’re bound to be a success! Included is also a comprehensive resource list
for understanding business, mentorship, financial loans and business systems.
As we boldly move into the 21st
century, even entrepreneurs must advance their skills and look to new
horizons. And that horizon has become
the internet. Packed with real life
scenarios, information and hyperlinks to further enhancement this report will
help you move your enterprise online and to generating immediate and
sustainable profits.
Special Report #
34: How to Create Educational & Career
Advancement for Yourself or a Partner
You or your partner has decided it’s time to go back to
school, that in fact as one of the lynchpins of successful life, you need to
go. How to you figure out what subject
to choose, where to go and how much to pay?
In this insightful Report everything from a GED to a Bachelors to a
Masters to a Doctoral degree are covered (including medical and law school!)
with the pros and cons and most importantly how your relationships will be
affected whether you’re single, dating or in a long term commitment. Are you
stuck in the same old rat race that you were a year ago, five years ago, and
ten years ago? You get up, you go to work,
you go home and repeat it the very next day.
Do you watch others get promoted or hired and higher and higher
levels? Have you been passed over so
many times that you’re starting to think it’s just never going to happen for
you? It’s simple: you’re either a Managerial, Visionary or Strategic
leader/worker…and only one of them consistently gets you ahead. Inside learn which one you are and which one
you need to become to get where you want to be.
Special Report # 36: How to Love
Yourself
Everyone
advises that in order to have a better life you just have to love
yourself. But what if you don’t know
how, what if you’ve never been taught how, what if the people who advise this
honestly when you try to pin them down are able to suggest to you what to do. Then this book is for you!
Included are step by step
instructions for you to do daily, weekly, monthly, and yearly to love
yourself. You’ll be tasked with
measurable goals and shown how to see outcomes.
As an added bonus you’ll then be
able to turn to lovers, friends and family and teach them specifically what you
did to improve your life.
Special Report # 37: Marriage for
Black and Latino Men
It
legal now! The pressure is on to put a
ring on it! Are you ready? Are you really
ready? What does it mean when your sexuality no longer ostracizes and isolates
you from the rights and privileges of the masses? Suddenly no matter your sex or sexuality you
too can marry? So what’s holding you
back? Is it you? Is it him?
Is it important? All things, now
being equal, what’s your excuse? Perhaps there are unique perceptions, fears
and concerns for African American and Latino men that directly keep them from
putting their civil rights into action.
Included in this book are the reasons why men of color are not lobbying
for more civil rights as an oppressed minority, what they’re losing out on and
how they overcome the last vestiges of slavery.
Enjoy!!!
Thank you for reading.
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Thank you for reading.
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Website: http://kylephoenixsite.com/
Blog: http://kylephoenixshow.blogspot.com/2012
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