Why do so many straight White guys seem or sound homosexual?
The funny part of this question and the below answers are that pretty much men of color who are not heterosexual are really the only ones who can answer this reasonably honestly.
The truth is yes, men of color perceive White as more sexuality flexible than Black men but Black msm perceive Latinos as even more so. I personally have a hard time identifying White men as heterosexual because of yes, some of the social privileges to be, act out and display more overt feminine qualities and less hyper masculine ones. I'm often surprised when White men are identified as straight. There is a softer, more Beta masculinity to them. White males are often more emotionally vulnerable than Black so it's difficult to accurately discern. The same with Latinos who also tend to be more physically touchy feely without regard to sexuality. I've had adult male students lean/lay on me and sleep on me on trains, sit much closer than I initially found comfortable. But that is not overt homosexualized behavior in their culture.
Black men are more socially intimate, if you're in the crowd you're in. But even Black msm have trouble with intimacy and not simply sex because we're taught hyper masculinity as a shield, protection, identity badge before smarts, kindness, supportiveness. So there's a sort of pack mentality too. Black hetero men at the same time there's a distancing. See the inverse or opposite of that in White or Latino men feels like homoeroticism and homosexuality from them.
Non hyper masculine White men feel like an overt or passive threat constantly. I have Black male coworkers who joke about sexuality or homosexuality at White and Latino men in a judgmental way or as the guys ultimate secret, motivation for his actions. I can see clearly this isn't sexuality true but it's also a way of reducing feelings of social powerlessness.
The irony is that if I pay sexuality attention the accused come off as hyper straight. I think there's also the threat of the sexualization that comes at us, men of color, from others. White men joke about size, sexual prowess and stereotypes about us that suggest that on an unconscious level they are considering me/us sexually and how far is that measuring from active sexual interest?
That sexualized projection constantly feels homoerotic because from White guys it can be so pronounced, so titillating that you can see them having a moment with the thoughts.
The truth is yes, men of color perceive White as more sexuality flexible than Black men but Black msm perceive Latinos as even more so. I personally have a hard time identifying White men as heterosexual because of yes, some of the social privileges to be, act out and display more overt feminine qualities and less hyper masculine ones. I'm often surprised when White men are identified as straight. There is a softer, more Beta masculinity to them. White males are often more emotionally vulnerable than Black so it's difficult to accurately discern. The same with Latinos who also tend to be more physically touchy feely without regard to sexuality. I've had adult male students lean/lay on me and sleep on me on trains, sit much closer than I initially found comfortable. But that is not overt homosexualized behavior in their culture.
Black men are more socially intimate, if you're in the crowd you're in. But even Black msm have trouble with intimacy and not simply sex because we're taught hyper masculinity as a shield, protection, identity badge before smarts, kindness, supportiveness. So there's a sort of pack mentality too. Black hetero men at the same time there's a distancing. See the inverse or opposite of that in White or Latino men feels like homoeroticism and homosexuality from them.
Non hyper masculine White men feel like an overt or passive threat constantly. I have Black male coworkers who joke about sexuality or homosexuality at White and Latino men in a judgmental way or as the guys ultimate secret, motivation for his actions. I can see clearly this isn't sexuality true but it's also a way of reducing feelings of social powerlessness.
The irony is that if I pay sexuality attention the accused come off as hyper straight. I think there's also the threat of the sexualization that comes at us, men of color, from others. White men joke about size, sexual prowess and stereotypes about us that suggest that on an unconscious level they are considering me/us sexually and how far is that measuring from active sexual interest?
That sexualized projection constantly feels homoerotic because from White guys it can be so pronounced, so titillating that you can see them having a moment with the thoughts.
Also White men tend to speak more from the throat and nasal-nose so their voices sound more feminine vs. Bass, diaphragm speakers which men of color are generally encouraged to be from childhood.
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