Showing posts with label Black men. Show all posts
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Saturday, August 11, 2018

Kyle Phoenix Answers: Why would someone diverge from the terminology of gay, bi, homosexual to Same Gender Loving? Is it exclusively racial among Black and Latino people?

As we as a society move further into the future, as we develop further, all factions and sub-groups are coming to the consciousness of self-development and actualization. To that end sexuality, or more precisely it’s labeling for the individual is coming not simply under examination but a form of transformation. The terms bi, gay, heterosexual, lesbian, even homosexual, are derived from Westernized concepts of pseudo-scientific demarcation as well as historical controls that don’t serve the people of the African Diaspora fully in the 21st century. First let me same that when I speak of the “African Diaspora”
I’m including men and women whose ancestors came from Africa to Central and South (Latin) America in the African Diaspora. The division that skin color based racism has created is a delusional discordant separation between the people (progeny) of the African Diaspora. Bluntly, people who obviously ain’t Anglo Saxon “White” disavow being in any part Black or African. Such a dissonance is racism at work. To think of yourself, your origins in Africa as not a part of the Diaspora is to align with the slave based mentality. Truthfully to do so as a Latino person may’ve historically meant survival, the ability to prosper and less abuses, degradation and enslavement rules years ago (in places like Cuba, Argentina, Mexico, Puerto Rico, etc.) but just as there is the connection for Mexicans and Caribbean folk to the nearly eradicated Taino people, there is the connection to the vibrant African spiritual and physical heritage that exists on all the continents in its people.
I often have to make this racialized overview in my work with men of color, Black and Latino, here in America because racism aligned into hegemony is so pervasive that many people do not know what they are. Nor appreciate the value of knowing so. Or even worse they have assumed the racial, cultural and spiritual segregation rules of the enslaver. While this might seem far afield of the point of sexuality, it is not as you’ll see in part s to come.
But what then of “mixed” brothers and sisters who, even like myself, can trace and perhaps even have been cared for and loved by White family members. Are they being asked to eschew those people, those memories, and those ancestors in favor of only African, Native/indigenous ones?
Never.
Instead I offer to you to expand your context of not only yourself but what you can racially and culturally contain, be and love.
What I am suggesting is that by being a person integrating or wholly of color means that your ontology can be greater, broader than an overly simplistic European one. People of color, whether African, Native or Asiatic in origin are not White/European people and don’t contain simply a European/American framework for understanding themselves, the Universe around them or even sexuality. It’s always easiest to instead define what I mean by “framework” in a racialized context first:
Ontology is one’s understanding of the nature of reality.
White history is largely deterministic, reductionist, rational, and objective in its historical and continuous ways of rationalizing what is real. White people believe that the world can be the world can be understood (and controlled) through the application of science and hypothesis testing. Therefore time is linear, with the past and future workings pushing them (and others) to reify progress as superior. To assume that technology is advancement as a whole and not simply tool. Logic and facts then become synonymous with the truth. Knowledge and reality are assumed to be generalize-able and universal. If it can be tested, examined, it can be named and by naming and labeling it, it is what the speaker, the labelerdetermines it to be. Such a perception in no way allows for the context nor the individual to determine in a particular way it’s own meaning.
Epistemology is the system of knowing what is known or knowable.
White systems of knowing include individualism, competition, positivism, constant rationality, adherence to logic and objectivity; all powerful and discerning science and constant dualism (right/wrong, good/bad. Approved/disapproved). Pan African activist, author and organizer Marimba Ani boils the European epistemological mode down to this: “Rob the universe of its richness, deny the significance of the symbolic, simply phenomena until it becomes mere object, and you have a knowable quantity. Here begins and ends the European epistemological mode.”
Such an epistemological frame in no way allows for community, grouping, teams, unification, irrationality, innovation, creativity if those forms don’t adhere to the rules of a dominant culture epistemology. In many ways you see this throughout history where in the Western world there have been hundreds of years of only incremental progress in terms of thought, beingness, science, technology because there has been such a rigid adherence to “certain ways of knowing and therefore doing things.”
Methodology asks how the information is gathered for creating knowledge.
The scientific process where hypothesis testing for quantitative results by objective researchers is expected. This is considered a reliable norm for finding answers and then it is allowed to contribute to what is judged as valid knowledge. The search for immutable laws; application of cause and effect, affect to effect, to form an understanding that can then be generalized to larger populations has long been bedrock for White methodology. Though predicated on religious thoughts and teachings, it comes into conflict with itself when trying to “explain” the miracles of its own spiritual beliefs. In many ways the greatest irony of White methodology is that its own methodology both points at and then ridicules its own community beliefs.
In many areas of White culture (particularly in translation to social norms, such as social class differences between those in poverty, middle class and upper class) there is an emphasis on direct verbal and written communication, content, and task over process and relationship, timely adherence to agendas versus spontaneity, considerable discomfort with non-rational ways of knowing, such as through our bodies, the spiritual or artistic expression. To not adhere to these points or ways of being is considered bestial, lower than or irrational so that reality becomes a place dictated by rules that are agreed upon not by observation but by ruling council.
Axiology is the ethics and values of a people.
It is where people create themselves, where they see themselves in relationship to God, Nature, the Universe, the fabric of reality around them. We use this to answer life’s mysteries and s[peculate and then create ephemeral possibilities. But when supported by the above frameworks, a society’s, a person’s, internal to external perception is instead supportive not expanding of the White frameworks described before. We then experience and see a damaging form of education when we consider reality only through an Aristotelian value based system, where knowledge itself is the only intrinsically worthwhile endeavor. The way this manifests now is in the modern propensity to educate the intellect in damaging disassociation from feeling, imagination and action. Aristotle, Shakespeare, Copernicus, Descartes and Darwin were useful to loosen White people from other White people with more dogmatic religious and feudal based societal thinking. However compartmentalization has become a way in which White people see themselves and prioritize their lives and experiences and maintain their grip on reality along such a continuum. Appreciation, veneration, communication with one’s ancestors and connection to the natural world are two indigenous values that get less attention in White culture, with destructive outcomes for people and the environment.
All of the above is why people of color are not always in “step” with White people. We view reality intrinsically differently. It doesn’t mean that with concerted effort we can’t learn to understand the other’s ways of thinking but people of color have had more demands upon themselves to learn White people for basic survival than White people ever had the other way around. If we push this framework even further we can replace ‘White” with heterosexual. If one is not heterosexual, one is not considered right or good or part of nature by certain scientific and religious frameworks. The reason why such bias and discrimination can occur is because bias and discrimination are at the heart of White ontology. It’s not a huge leap to transfer that from race to sexuality.
But the actions and potential blame doesn’t fall to simply White people. We too must take responsibility and concerted action to see ourselves, to self-perceive and create ourselves in a healthier cultural alignment. We do this by understanding the stages of cultural and racial self perception. And as those of us color must do so must individuals who aren’t of color must move through stages of identity formation in order to clearly see and be able to navigate themselves and this world healthily.
Helms Model
6 Stages, J.E. Helms (1990), Black and White Racial Identity: Theory Practice
Frankenberg Model
(White Framework Movements)
Stage 1-Content Stage
People of Color are exoticized, White are oblivious to their own racism; nor see themselves as White
Phase 1
Essentialism Racism
Biological difference is basis of racism---usually what Whites really mean when they say “I’m not racist.”
Stage 2-Disintegration
Notice racism, distance themselves from Black and Latino people out of guilt/shame from White privilege.
Phase 2
Color Blindness
Common discourse, seeing race at all is prejudiced; and being able to designate/nullify color is a position/privilege of a “White self”
Stage 3-Reintegration
Whites believe there is an element of truth to racial stereotypes and avoid associating with them or treat them badly/act violently.
Phase 3
Power Erosion
See race, recognize racial difference but do not acknowledge the power of difference between Whites and People of Color---but are pointedly careful to avoid discussions of unequal power relationships; focuses on internal thought
Stage 4-Pseudo-Independent
Whites begin to understand that they aren’t superior but might still perpetuate the belief through actions.
Phase 4
Race Cognizance
(Transforming Silence Into Language and Action)-able to use the term my racism; political activism seen as way to deal with racism; focus becomes more collective
Stage 5-Immersion/Repellent
Whites start coming to terms with what it means to be White; join White consciousness groups, talk to other Whites about racism.
Stage 6-Autonomy Stage
People have a positive definition of Whiteness and understand Whites perpetuate racism, but they seek ways to eradicate racism on personal and societal levels.
As we grow, we change and expand, as all life does and must.
Ashe.

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Saturday, June 30, 2018

Kyle Phoenix Answers: Why are black people never called out as being racist?

Because Black people generally lack specific sweeping social power and privilege to affect and effect with our prejudices. Also the discriminatory views we view with are hand me down viewpoints so it's like the rape victim saying ill show you all, based upon my rape I'm now going to rape others. It's a circular narrow minded way of saying thinking that suggests you're dealing with a damaged person so rather judgmental threat, you feel judgmental pity.

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Kyle Phoenix Answers: Is it true that when an African American man becomes rich, he tends to date a white woman? Or a White man?



As a brown man who has dated men and women, ill tell you what happens at certain levels of income.

Mid-Middle class and lower under 10k to about 75k a year, you're likely to be around the same culture and ethnicity.
High middle class-$250k a year and up, you start to move in more overlapping Venn diagram circles. Conferences, colleges, parties, political functions, art openings...you can afford access to most things that millionaires can on a say $10k basis---Met opera tickets, Met galas, dinners....it might be a months pay but you can get in.
Here's what happens, those places have a larger percentage of non-Black folk. At Columbia University functions of say 100 adults over 30, I'm generally 1 of 2 or 3. But once in into those places unless I lose my damn mind the Whites, Asians, Middle Eastern, African, European, Latin American folk invite me to more of their social and cultural stuff. So now I'm 1 in 300. But I'm welcomed on my merits. I did a Fulbright Scholars presentation to 26 folk from all over the world, myself and another Black male were two presenters, coincidentally because our educational work overlapped into poverty issues so the invite to the Presidents house now had us and maybe 3 other Black folk and 200 others. One of the coat checkers was in a class of mine, she's Asian.
As just a numbers game I could be a 75k transit worker and have both peer, social, community interactions with Black men and women. That economic class average skews those in attendance.
My family had a second residence in a secured community ...me, my mother, the realtor and Herbie Hancock were the only Blacks amongst 200 homes.
Have I been places full of high middle class to rich ($250k plus a year, $1mil a year) to wealthy Black folk? Wealthy $10mil a year...yes. My mother directed, coordinated a movie premiere at Lincoln center of a Black film and all the Black glitterati came out, but more importantly business people because the sponsor budget was thru a Black union.
Now take those venues, neighborhoods, conferences and consider finding 3 out 10 people attractive and compatible to date. 1 of those three being ltr material for you and for their interests.
The numbers are skewed culturally to resources, class, who can handle your lifestyle (I've dated and several of my Black coworkers were nervous about going to the university presidents house and I had to talk them into a state of calmness)---that might seem minor but your date's comfortability, or mine, with that event, visiting the house in the mountains, coming to political parties, museum functions, dance/art recitals, I prefer good food for a date which means a $100 plus a person.
Because a smaller percentage of us have moved into or through those categories it's like I have to watch who's comfortable in my worlds, I've had both men and women of color, not know what to do or be intimidated but because of simply more Whites in varying classes (and entitlement/privilege , almost a force field) I've found more Whites are more comfortable. That makes me more comfortable and I can enjoy myself.
Now here's something odd I've thought about...i will partner with someone younger, probably won't be from my culture, I will have greater resources (I've dated richer white and Turkish) just by virtue of the circles I keep moving in. Which means my children will be mixed in some way.
Social class movement both isolates us black men and gives us options.
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Kyle Phoenix Answers: Why are Black people in America 8 times more likely to get HIV than white people in America — and 8 times more likely to die from AIDS?





Having worked in agencies for years, the answers are complex and therefore most all answers are true even if sometimes contradictory.

Power dynamics affect male and female infection. Poor females and males are pressured to have unprotected sex for survival.

Women of color share more partners with other women, sometimes knowingly with females and with males ,less unknowingly, due to the inequality of male resources and education due to systematic racism. Women of color have historically been given more access to work than men but men are more prized. So men can "get away" with more in both straight and gay relationships. Work and resources inform and constructs identity, healthy identity builds internally, self confidence and from the external to the individual, self esteem. We have less self esteem so we wrestle with our external worth which leads to healthcare engagement.

People of color as a mass have less private insurance. Its not the quality here but the mentality of engaging the medical community.
I've had a private doctor for over a decade on the upper east side because I chose the better neighborhood assuming higher capita would ensure a better doctor. They regularly call me, ask me question, see me in 10 minutes of arrival, its a beautiful townhouse. It occurred to me to tell her pointedly of my work and sexuality a couple of years in because I read there were other tests etc for MSM that we might ignore or doctors didn't know to do. She took it in stride and promptly snapped on a glove and told me to bend over. I said to the mirrored wall, wow this is the first time this has been done to me on the upper east side. We laughed. She inserted her Asian finger.

I'm receiving rich/affluent medical care and a level of social acceptance that even me, someone out as a cloud has to remember to notify medical folk about. Most Black/Latino people don’t have their career alerting them and making them comfortable to broach medical topics, ask for special care or feel comfortable. People of color tend to distrust the medical field, doctors are quacks but want to be given magic pills instead of seeing doctors as learned employees who can only be good at their job based on your management and honesty with them and receptiveness to their advice.

MSM have a smaller network of sexual partners. Privilege and entitlement make it easier to cross as white men and women racial lines and not feel social, financial, emotional, racial pressure positive and negatively. So brown stays with brown but imagine this: 10 guys in a brown neighborhood over time without knowing each other will have accessed each others sexual network. A white man or a brown one dating all over the state and others, will dip into networks but the 1 in 10 for white and intrepid brown black is then 1 in 20 chance of infection on the merry go round will miss him more often....unless he's you know a super-whore or the wrong kind of lotto winner. Brown to brown odds are 1 in 4.

Brooklyn neighborhoods Bed Stuy and Brownsville have such a high HIV infection rate that it's only beat by sub Saharan Africa HIV II infections. The Bronx is no 60-70% full of HIV infected adults because HASA, the social services special division for benefits for the roughly 200,000 on their dole, only pays up to $999 for rent for a single person-----where are those rents cheapest? Bronx, bed stuy, Brownsville, Harlem so all of the HIV infected adults are herded into a tight geographic area.

I teach in workshops to ask where a man or woman lives in NYC because their address can intimate higher infection possibility.
A smaller community with less men/women sexually educated and liberated to explore outside of our immediate environments, we're more likely to catch a permanent"ride". Besides safe sex one of the best preventive measures, as counter intuitive as it sounds, is to fuck around, in bigger social circles.
Bigger kicker, systemic racism and discrimination like world war II when whites were able to take advantage of free college and mortgages, translated for minorities as 1200 college seats available for 100, 000 plus returning hence the doorman, train porter and hotel bellhop surge of black men in the 1950s thru 1970s.
But how does this affect black folk now? Being denied the uplift that millions of white folk got in education and property ownership affected their children and their grandchildren because there was no transferrable knowledge or material wealth to pass on in a very specific area---pensions. Disqualifying a group meant that they couldn't pull their sons or grandsons into pensioned jobs therefore each generation is starting from near scratch resource and intellectually if you fall into about 2/3 s of the less educated people of blacks, etc. Obama announced in 2009 that in order to make $15 or more in the 21st century you'd need a minimum of an associates degree, two years of college. Your granddaddy couldn't get a degree, your daddy didn't, how you going to know how, learning is a middle class skill.

Wait for it.

So you're young, black in NYC, basic high school education, gay, trans, bi, str8 and HASA pays $30,000 a year for life in rent, cash, food stamps, healthcare for a chronic, no longer terminal disease, that may or may not kill you in 27 years.
Instant pension, no matter your age and all you have to to be eligible is fuck, a lot, maybe even in your own neighborhood and then you get to do nothing, maybe work under the table for stores or bars or uber.

Sounds insane?

I have many a student and older adult client who've bug chased and purposefully gotten positive because its a lifetime lotto of on average $600,000 per person.
The infected don’t know or don’t care. Racism has created a fatalism to people of color, hence the above. The power of the church comes from the faith and blind hope that life will be better elsewhere, never here. In a broad way, racism and inequality pushes us to believe this earth is hell so it gives way for less health monitoring and self controls. Not being fully integrated into the world system of government we don’t both see and feel the impact of medical costs, pharmaceutical costs, lost resources lost workers, lost genius, lack of progress predicated on the existence of others....because racism has ironically taught us to devalue ourselves. Devalued people want sex pleasure but why practice safe sex if it is all unequal?

Racism sexualized us as a mass, the social reaction by the black and brown masses was a sexual conservatism internally within our communities. White people have Caitlyn Jenner (who I finally saw, heard, video of on Celebrity Apprentice ----officially hmmm wow and what the fuck?), now what Asian, Latino, black transgender has Diane Sawyer interviewed? Bruce Jenners fame has propelled attention but Jenner having been a white man affords him the privilege to drop being male in his SIXTIES and entitlement allows him, sitting in a dress, designer dresses on your huge magazines , full makeup, having had multiple children and multiple wives to look Ellen Lesbian DeGeneres in the face on national tv and say he opposes gay/same sex marriage. No, really. Blew her mind because she has never experienced white male power, privilege and entitlement wrapped in liberation so intensely before.

People of color, as wacky and hubristic as Jenner may be, we don't have the powerful of our communities exampling power, entitlement, privilege,liberation and identity control because our history is in direct opposition to such.
Caitlyn Jenner is a hero, gets an Espy, Dennis Rodman was just crazy. Because white male occupied sexuality, trans or gay (ala Matthew Sheppard) is to be taken seriously ----how about Rashawn Brazell. Same difference, neighborhood dude killed him, had known him for years, lured him into a pick up situation, killed him by hacking him pieces. We wont even talk about the visibly drugged Laotian brown boy who was running down the street naked that despite black neighbors protest was delivered back to his boyfriend...Jeffrey Dahmer.
White people, socially are in high school around sexuality, brown folk have some prodigies but en masse, we're graduating from elementary school to middle school. That gap means less sexual education about identity, experimentation, sexuality and therefore safe sex in our communities.
The church is fundamentally based on our oppressors ontology of reality. In order to have a church for other social needs we've had to take the mental and spiritual rape of the Bible to establish community in front of our oppressors. The church is therefore its own dialectic trying to appease and comfort while moving towards a center of humanism. That consistent spiritual dialectic keeps people of color not stuck but wandering around the mall parking lot, some in line, others not, some trying to escape the parking lot mentality. We're at a Juncture of about 40 years now out of oppression/slavery---we are master-less, rudderless, trying to build viable communities. the multitude of community needs, jobs, food, water, property rights, education, retirement plans, childcare, ending misogyny an d misandry, ending crime, domestic abuse, elder care, mental healthcare put HIV behind heart disease, diabetes, high blood pressure, when we run through major to minor issues.

HIV prevention isn't a big enough problem because it doesn't kill as fast, 5 years in rural places like Charlotte, 27 years life expectancy in Harlem, that time disparity lets all them other community maladies push it to the fringes so the community hasn't been able to respond as effectively as the white community. The white communities initial mass infection were what-----go to the Caitlyn Jenner image---white men who were raised to see their perspective as the center of the universe in entitlement, power and therefore demand with their greater financial and social resources, better attention, health care and research. People of color are still advocating about racism based on race----we're yelling in the parking lot, white gay men are in the mansion having tea then going into the other room and arguing for same sex marriage rights, inherent, historical institutional change before the Supreme Court....folk of color....could you let us beyond the lobby to start working on our grievances?
Please?
Pretty please?
Historically black, Latino , native and Asian value is connected to white decision of value. There's a famous story by Thurmann and recounted by Derrick Bell author of Faces At The Bottom Of The Well: The Permanence Of Racism, of aliens coming to Earth offering cures for diseases, wealth, technology....all they want is all the black people.


There is no inherent value to blacks and others NOT being 8 times more infected to white people. The world, in the story, unites to round everyone darker than beige up.

As HIV parable say 50 to 75% of black folk died of HIV in the next 30 years, 50% latino-----what do you think say someone like Caitlyn Jenner, expressing a deep identity desire in a Dior gown, hair long and shiny, make up flawless, having been a white man for sixty years and now jumping fence but opposed to equal rights for all in historical institutions, after having indulged emotionally, social and financially benefited from said institutions historically, would do, say or feel about the minorities going poof?

More land. More resources. More jobs. More opportunity to structure the society and institutions to ego suit.

White men being blind and partially lacking profit from the survival of others, within America and other places is the fundamental reason why the World Health Organizations has forced countries to sign accords, over 120 so far, to keep a single, level pricing for HIV meds.


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Sunday, June 17, 2018

Kyle Phoenix Answers: As a Black man from the “hood”, how do you navigate corporate America? How have you found a medium between who you are and still being professional?