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Sunday, March 12, 2023

Why is black culture a problem for African Americans? by #KylePhoenix

 

There is no such thing as a Black culture.

Culture broadly is defined as——

  1. the arts and other manifestations of human intellectual achievement regarded collectively."20th century popular culture" Similar: the arts the humanities intellectual achievement(s)intellectual activity literature music painting philosophy
  2. the customs, arts, social institutions, and achievements of a particular nation, people, or other social group." Caribbean culture"

Ethnicity is

  1. the fact or state of belonging to a social group that has a common national or cultural tradition. "the interrelationship between gender, ethnicity, and class"

But culture in relationship to ethnicity/people is defined as three simple precepts:

  • language
  • country of origin
  • rituals

In order to be classified, recognized, as a culture/ethnicity, a grouping must possess all three. The problem with this is that it works for say Jews (Hebrew/Yiddish, Middle East/Africa, Seders, Yom Kippur, etc.)

Now we could on to a dissection of the authenticity of the 3 point evaluation system as it is from a Westernized ontology, epistemology—-though it really helps to define more of the non-Western world—- than all of the Western places. But to demonize a construct because of the issues with the construction architects is specious and doesn’t take into examination that the system might work/have a point.

Language-Black Americans have a language that is not formalized. (Yes we have Ebonics and Gullah and Creole, etc.——but you can’t get far in Nigeria speaking that, nor is it a language that is recognized and present elsewhere in large formalized ways. Meaning there are people speaking French in Finland but probably not Gullah. Now this has a lot to do with segregation and discrimination but all cultures discriminate against one another—-the examination here is formalized, adopted, living language. The again mix and match adoption of Black American languages and the fact that all of us Black Americans don’t speak one of the various forms, pushes them to language vs. dialect.)

Language is:

  1. the principal method of human communication, consisting of words used in a structured and conventional way and conveyed by speech, writing, or gesture" a study of the way children learn language"
  2. a system of communication used by a particular country or community. "the book was translated into twenty-five languages"

Dialect is:

  1. a particular form of a language which is peculiar to a specific region or social group.

"this novel is written in the dialect of Trinidad"

Black originating language would fall into dialect at best and not be recognized wholly as a language. It could be recognized as a language if millions of us spoke it or the other 2 precepts of culture were met. The problem is again segregation, we were segregated from each other so that we didn’t possess a uniform language so the languages we might have made universal, even amongst Black Americans, was diluted and eradicated to the point of non-formal existence.

Country of Origin-Black Americans have at best a biological ability to genetically trace country of origin but the vast majority don’t have a direct knowledge of that history, land, ancestry nor family in that African place.

Country of Origin is

  1. Generally speaking, the country of origin is the country of manufacture, production, or growth where an article or product comes from. Country of origin is not to be confused with where the product was shipped from as this may not be the same as where it was originally produced.

Rituals-Black Americans do have rituals that are a hodge podge of African rituals passed on from various African peoples/their ancestors of the past or viewing African rituals in the present and adopting them.

Rituals are

  1. a religious or solemn ceremony consisting of a series of actions performed according to a prescribed order. "the role of ritual in religion"

adjective

  1. relating to or done as a religious or solemn rite. "ritual burial"

We’re not Black, nor African Americans-Language

The above demarcations and breakdowns are why it is so difficult to define and focus a group of people who have African ancestry, and melanin, in common. We diverge on the 3 Precepts depending upon the individual but don’t coalesce as a mass to fulfill the 3 precepts. Segregation caused definitional fracturization.

You can be different kinds of Jews but still default to being a Jew. People of African origin who were brought mainly to South America and the Caribbean and then North America and Europe, were forced within a year to assimilate to that enslaving culture’s cultural norms, languages, rituals and by placement, country of origin mores. Therefore to bring the identity of their preceding generations to halt, a cultural chasm of Before, Assimilation/Disintegration, and then finally, Adoption.

Yes, there were Africans who arrived in the Americas who were not originally slaves and had knowledge-memory and were able to eventually write about having language, country of origin and rituals to create a known culture—-unknown to the present day mass of Black folk (famously Olaudah Equiano)—-but they too by virtue of minority to majority, had to forms of adoption-defaulting to the dominant culture.

One of the big defaults is English. We defaulted to the language spoken in the land of wherever we were in the Americas. Non-enslaved Africans were able to hold and maintain their origin language but the enslaved had to default—-which is where dialects sprouted from—-as both an combining, accommodation, translator, and individuation—-though done all in levels of enclaving and secrecy.

We’re not Black, nor Africans-Country of Origin

Most, well over 90% of Blacks/AAs don’t know which African country they have an ancestral lineage to. Some do. Those who were free and never enslaved, those who were able to record oral history and those who were educated—-or some combination of the three, make up those with ancestral-lineage knowledge. Most don’t. Most Blacks/African Americans don’t know who or what they are or where they’re from beyond 1–3 generations previous.

Luckily, that can now genetically be researched and change that. But most don’t/haven’t done so.

One of the reasons is prohibitive costs and it’s not entertainment based. If you got an ancestry test for free with Mercedes, BMWs, Nikes, Adidas, Tommy Hilfiger, a Jay-Z cd or watching BET—-literally half, if not all African Americans, would know where they genetically originate. Some consumer products have permeated deeply into Black-AAs, whether for good or ill, right or wrong, but there hasn’t been a long-term vision, past to present or present to past, incentive to include origination with those objects/experiences of entertainment/consumerism.

Maybe some day some billionaire will set up a trust where ancestry can be paid for just by application, Hmmm?

It’s not such a pressed idea among Black and AAs because we have the flattened idea of Africa, Africans as an origin, not understanding the power in country of origin.

(Now if your country of origin were designated on say your tax forms for a rebate…well…)

We’re Black, African American And Slightly African-Rituals

This is where we excel because it is ephemeral, malleable, enduring, social and personal. We could practice the majority of rituals, and pass them down by generation, whether indentured, free or enslaved. But because it was literally a game of generational mailbox, with people as a majority denied education (it would be wonderful for people who identify as Black/AA to explain WHY education was denied and the effect it has had upon their family line. Honestly, what we’re pressing at and demanding in unity and equality and equality—-is that we’re NOT equal because we were hampered—-but we never define what the hamperings effects are, present day. Ironically because enough of us don’t have the education to dissect the reality with critical thinking or metacognition to illuminate our limitations’ origin.)

We have less because less of us could think, compute and amass so those Blacks and AAs reading this, received far less from their ancestors in America than comparable White(ned) Americans. We’re not less then by segregation simply marginalized, less exposed, limited en masse.

How many of you own books (not the Bibble—-that is the Indoctrination Manifesto) from your grandparents, your great-grandparents, and so forth, back?

Indoctrination not knowledge of how to do things was passed down to you then. Bluntly then, we Blacks/AAs have less smart/educated people in our families because we don’t have internal social systems for cultivating knowledge, knowing as a (intellectual) ritual. Jewish people have Yeshiva and Talmudic studies—-which teaches not just history and religion and moral codes but also how to read, write, reason, critically think. At 12/13 boys and girls, Bat and Bar Mitzvahs, of Jewish faith stand before a large assemblage and relay, in another language, knowledge and cultural-historical knowledge that they’ve studied.

How many Black and Latino kids do this of not the Bibble (memorizing another culture’s values—-indoctrination) but any, African in origin, in an African country’s language of that person’s country of origin?

Blacks and AAs think the ramifications or limitations are the worse of discrimination, no, it’s the inherent disabling, subtly, generation after generation, and indoctrination—— currently, 93% of Blacks and AAs doing it now (I’ll explain how they’re doing it at the end.) But it’s the issue of indoctrination, alienation from knowledge and adoption of a Culture Disruptor—-the avoidance of current education.

Blacks and African Americans Avoid Not Just African Education but Education Itself

Something happened. As a teacher for decades, an educator, someone who enjoys education, learning, reading, writing, studying, who came from parents and grandparents and great-parents who (Black, White, African, Scottish, Irish Narragansett Natives, West Indian, Southern American) loved the same, I think it happened within Civil Rights Reform—-approximately 1955–1970. Before the full Amendments and Reform, prior to 1970 that adult generation was limited very directly by segregation—-between 10–15% of Blacks/AAs being beyond high school educated. Which is where we get the push for voting rights, recruiting voters, Septima Clark, education, grassroots activism to educate for political and social power, Ella Baker, Thurgood Marshall, Freedom Riders, etc.—-in order to achieve the end result of the CRA—-Blacks had to be, greater numbers, educated, about reading, writing, government, to be able to pass voting tests, become activists, assist in CRA. There was a mass group necessity for education to move to the “next level” in a segregated society—-education was then of the Talented Twentieth or Twentieth percentile a cultural/community responsibility not just for yourself but for your neighbor, your family, illiterate folk down South, folk on the front lines. Education was community based and necessary so the educated were supported in learning not deriding , like now, or accused of being White for being educated.

Often Black people look wistfully and twistedly, at segregation, at Jim Crow, for the positive, a sense of unification that it brought. It didn’t so much of bring unification as it brought No Choice. By that I mean if there are 50 of us in a jail cell and food and supplies are brought in, we must negotiate, navigate and perhaps even create systems of barter within that cell for everyone to survive and not devolve into anarchy. By that metaphor, in segregation, freed ostensibly from direct plantation slavery, 10 years of Reconstruction to catch our collective breath, before peonage, sharecropping, Jim Crow, prison chain gang-workers—-we had to build systems, as we were excluded from the mass White cultures systems’, outside of our social “cells”.

Fast forward that ideal of segregation to Now.

Say we were still sharply segregated, where as now we’re intermingled/intertwined but not truly mixed, and segregation meant that Black society was different and lesser in resources and systems than White societies.

Say it was 2022, Black segregation existed and only White towns, cities, governments, institutions, families, had the internet, or access to it?

Say it was 2022 , Black segregation existed and only White towns, cities, governments, institutions, families, had access to food distribution systems from meats to grains and vegetables—-Black towns had to rely upon small farms for food/meat.

Say it was 2022, Black segregation existed and only White towns, cities, governments, institutions, families, had phone service, local and international, or access to it?

See if we were wholly segregated as in some Black and AAs fantasies, we would be sorely limited——healthcare disparities already highlight by COVID among Blacks and Latinos, HIV death rates with or without antivirals/PRep, no wholly owned and funded hospitals in the United States of Blacks/Latinos.

We are still dependent upon access to White cultures expanded, non-limited, resources and technologies and therefore their created systems of military, social support, distribution and technological advancement,, to survive and prosper.

This is the ramification of less education and the focus in and after CRA, of being free but not becoming capable, comparable, co-partners in the industry of America. Blacks and Latinos couldn’t easily survive without White people because there aren’t enough of us with high level education to take over the maintenance and management of the systems that run the country——even if we could surmount White's being 5 to 6x more in population. Disregarding Whitney Young’s negotiating with the government and Big Business, MLK settled for a a watered down right to vote but not true progress. And later, he admitted this.

But that critical time, say 1970 to 1990, we didn’t storm schools and universities—-didn’t do a mass “catch up”, we simply continued on. And without a Whitney Young government guarantee by population—-13% of the US government jobs to be held by Blacks—-and so on for Latinos, Natives, Asians—-at a minimum, we could be soft discriminated against:

“Our company of 10,000 employees isn’t discriminatory—-we have 100 Black janitors and 1 Black Manager. See!”

vs.

“Our company of 10,000 employees isn’t discriminatory—-we have 1300 Black employees, by federal mandate, at a minimum distributed through the 3 tiers of positions from entry, managerial to senior managerial at the government mandated 13%—-we have to hire or promote every year according to the USA demographics or pay a tax penalty. See!”

Now what that would have done is that of say a round 50 million Blacks currently and about 60 million Latinos—-13/15% —-15 to 20 million of them——would be in government jobs, the same in private sector jobs—-and therefore that would severely cut into the approximate 50–70% poverty rates of both currently (20–30 million in total)—-which would in turn increase the GDP and GNP because more people working, having money, need to buy more things so innovation, industry, manufacturing are necessary in country, rather than shipped internationally, for capable and cheaper labor.

Racism and segregation has tipped the apple cart so that a lot of our American apples spill overseas. But because we opted for the right to vote/tokenism freedom rather than the right to progress-money advancement-equity (different than equality) we have two generations of Blacks and now Latinos who are not as intellectually prodigious as folk in India and China, and ironically, Africa. We are not any where's near the mass of STEM learned folk they are.

Blacks and AAs leaned into the idea of equality rather than the leverage equity would have given us long-term. And as of last month, 93% of mellinated folk self label and identify as Black. Nearly all of us agree to a limited, ephemeral designation-connotation, literally created by White people.

We have no power. In media, in industry, in commerce, in international relations, in medicine, in universities, in politics nor private business. There is no Black organization that can stop, halt, or derail any of the 11 Industry Sectors of America.

At absolute best, we could slow down entertainment, Facebook and TikTok videos of singing and dancing and buffoonery…but not for long.

Black (and Latino) culture—-as an aspirational, delusional virus (much like the social construct of race), has been injected into mellinated folk in the Americas, and beyond, to teach us to serve an ideology—-whether by whip or minimum wage; to not seek or wield power, and to eschew intense, rigorous education in our households by at least 50% of our current populations.

Blacks have been duped by the creators of culture—-who then back it up, support it with reparations, governmental support and land—-to others—-as sort of a brass ring just a hair’s inch out of the collective Black and Latino validity grasp but instead as a condescending box to entrap minds, hearts, futures and Human Capital within, without any of the 4 Pillars of true power of a community/culture—-businesses, schools, politicians and media/education nor homeland—-under our autonomous control.

Now, dear reader, reflect on Jews, Asians, Arabs, Indians, even some Latino groups and ask——do they have 1,2,3,4? Language, ritual, country of origin?

And how many of the 4 Pillars and 3 Cultural Precepts do Blacks/AAs have?

Black culture, like the delusion of race, is yet another dog chasing its tail distraction constructed for the Blacks to do, dance, sing, preach and extol and laud on about——circumstances not having changed by much in 100 years.

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Sunday, October 28, 2018

Why do more gay men prefer to bottom than top? Kyle Phoenix Answers


Kyle Phoenix
Kyle Phoenix, Author of Multiple orgasm training Men, in its 3rd edition.
Yes, there is a biological reason why that was done with some really great research. For over 20 years I've been presenting and then teach expanded workshops to men around sex and sexuality and relationships. I too noticed from my youth groups to elder men a disproportionate number of Bottoms vs Tops. The more passive surveys I did the more I found it was almost correlating to the 80/20 rule. Then in 2007 I found a research project that questioned 2000 plus men who had sex with men, msm by Keith Swain a psychologist who surveyed men with a hundred question questionnaire (it's on my Kyle Phoenix website under Alpha Best test.
What he found and my surveying of an additional 200 men found that estrogen levels of production and testosterone levels of production affect all males first. The thought is that 15-20% of the whole male population are Alphas and the rest Betas. The genetic anthropologists thought is that Alphas directly protect the tribe but too many would create constant conflict and from biological jealousy of women's attention harm offspring. More Beta men, who have greater levels of estrogen are able to be more nurturing to women and children and socially and psychologically offset Alpha's in the population.
In Msm the physical characteristics are just as pronounced, shoulder slope, shoulder to hip ratio, how weight is gained, hair patterns, finger lengths, intellectual preferences, perception and yes, finally, sexual position.
The research presented the overall problem, more bottoms than tops; the confusion ---biological bottoms assume Alphas are seeking men from the physical and mental criteria that Betas do so they rush to the gym and bulk/muscle up. Alphas, Batman are seeking Robins', not other Batman's so the physical boosting and hyper masculinity drives off Alphas or confuses them and draws Betas to the Alpha looking, acting Betas who then rush home and throw themselves both onto theirs backs and scream take me.
There is a two part scoring of the test to show that the most evenly attracted couples had a balancing of about 15-20 points between, more and the other was too emotionally extreme or too close and they negated each other....where there's visual attraction but not emotional chemistry because there's not a balance of masculine/feminine energy (to absorb the fantastic Dr. Patricia Allen into this whose m/f survey I was using as my baseline to get to Swains NMBS in Dynamic Duos.
Where are the Alphas?
Half are in the closet in traditional heterosexual marriages because they want traditional defined hetero relationships and children.
The other half are present but not as flamboyant as Betas in communities so they tend to be invisible but a mark of an Alpha man is that he doesn't have an issue with feminine men because he likes the emotional availability and intimacy. Its Betas who are turned off by it and attack femininity trying to be more masculine.
Beta men are encouraged to one be more versatile because due to numbers they will have to be to mate. They are also encouraged to stop being so butch because Alphas are seeking Betas to protect and care for not compete with.
Yes to two questions---all men want to be Alphas. Just like the massive penis growth men have in their minds. Actually Beta penises tend to be longer due to estrogen whole Alphas are shorter and thicker. Once I explain that bit of biology msm don't know which side to try and hope to.
And yes there are a micro-percentage of men who present b/A---Beta emotional structure but Alpha body, appearance natural. They have the hardest time mating because they have to stop competing with the Alpha men they desire and accept, at least in the relationship the Beta role they desire.
The pairing is b/B, A/a and A/b.
Now I've done this workshop with several thousand men over the years and prescribed their dating style to follow and it always works.
Yes, I was skeptical at first but I was on track to seeing and identifying this so I could proof it faster plus I had 150 msm a week to work this out with. Trust me, it's the biological truth.

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Friday, November 9, 2012

1 Minute Tips in Etiquette: Menswear

A man is made by his suit, his professional attire.  Now this doesn't mean that you have to spend thousands to look good.  You have to consider  especially in an economy that is shifting and mercurial,. you need to be on your A game.  Every man should own two suits.  One black and one blue or dark grey.  If you have a Blackberry, an Iphone or a Wii and no suits, you're not ready for the social challenges of life that men, males who have graduated into manhood are prepared for.

Suit Times:

  • Job interviews
  • Dinner dates
  • Weddings
  • Funerals
  • College interviews
  • To make be a good impression (no one has ever been told they were too classy looking)

*Needs and Why?
It is better to show up overdressed and be able to take off your tie and fold it into a pocket square of color (a trick I use when I see I'm in a situation that doesn't call for absolute formality.)  I would submit that Black and Latino males, the horrible number of 70% to 80% of them being brought up by single parents, mothers, don't learn this.  Men teach boys (and other men) how to become men, even down to having half a dozen plain white or black t-shirts and drawers.  Now yes, some women are able to bring up their boys to do so but there is a point where men show each other that you should have 1 pair of plain black and brown shoes.  You need at least 5 dress shirts in white and blue.  After that you can go Jay-Z (notice he shows up differently in business and casual situations) hippity hoppity as you wanna be.  You can rock all kinds of sparkling drag and boho, hobo, hipster, emo style you want.  But like Superman you need a dark tie, a nice red and/or blue one.

*Cleverly, the bolded words above are your shopping list.

Money!  How Much to Spend?
This is what some males use as a a barrier to the truth that in the world you'll need to have this basic wardrobe section as a man.  You can pull it together for $100 or start with a Brioni suit at $10,000.  But a cell phone is about all your set up wardrobe should cost.

Low Budget:
  • 1-2 suits--You can get them at K&G, KMart, Men's Warehouse for $200 to $400.
  • 2 to 5 shirts (I suggest going cotton always) should cost you about $25 to $75 a piece.
  • 3 ties, you can get a basic tie for about $10 a piece.
  • A pack of t-shirts, drawers and three pack of black socks. $20 to $40 bucks.
  • Dress shoes can be $30 for basic black/brown Payless or up to $100 for sturdy get bys.
Medium Budget:
  • 1-2 suits--You can get them at K&G, KMart, Men's Warehouse for $400 to $1000.  Same stores, other racks.
  • 2 to 5 shirts (I suggest going cotton always) should cost you about $100 to $275 a piece.  Over $150 is generally tailor made shirts at stores like Pink or Brooks Brothers.  Quality costs more, but looks better and lasts longer when you take good care of it.
  • 3 ties, you can get a basic tie for about $50 a piece.
  • A pack of t-shirts, drawers and three pairs of black socks. $100 to $200 bucks.
  • Dress shoes can be $100 for basic black/brown up to $400 for well made, full leather good shoes.
Cute Budget (with Tips and Tricks):
  • 1-2 suits--$400.for an Emporio Armani off of EBay.  After undergrad that was how I bought my first Armani.  Saks Armanis start at about $2500 per suit  That's entrance price to Emporio (there are Armani levels).  A truly great Emporio will start at $10,000.  But with EBay and Alibaba, if you regularly scour, you can find several new ones at a half or a third of the retail price.
  • 2 to 5 shirts: $125 to $200 a piece; pay more for shirts and plan buying 1 or two every few months, soon you'll have a killer wardrobe.  Suggestion: buy white, blue and pink first; never go for trendy styles as your foundation---remember the bright neon dress shirts with striped colors and cuffs?  (I bought one on a dare.  I wear it to signal low flying airplanes.)
  • French cuff/Cufflinks.  Once you have your foundation, you can start to vary quality with french cuff shirts.  Then you get into cufflinks--I suggest a couple standard $20 ones simple metal squares or oblongs then start to play with it with gold, silver, platinum, school crests, Booker T. Washington faces.  But if you get fashion fun remember the rest of the jacket and outfit must be so tight that the joie de vive you're showing with Daffy Duck cufflinks is seen as clever and fun, not childish.
  • 3 ties can be as much as $100 a piece.  I have some nice Armani ones.  These are generally silk and then you might need a tie clip or tie pin---again follow cufflink rules (most places that sell one will sell the other that complements)
  • T-shirts, drawers and socks. $20 to $50 bucks for each.  A great suit can apply the wild cufflink rule to socks.
  • Dress shoes $300 for basic black/brown and you want to go classic wingtip or oxford and then get fun.  Same neon striped shirt applies to shoes---trendy huge foot, elongated toes, zippy and visible from two blocks away need to be counterbalanced powerfully by everything else.  Also with good shoes you want to have your backup mediums or even lows.  Sometimes, while teaching I spend a lot of time on my feet so there's less focus on me as being fashionable.  I wear slip ons of some medium shoes with a full suit.  My Ferragamos and Guccis at $400 and up a pair, I save for presentations, interviews, dinners, meeting new associations, etc..
Based on your budget you should have a 1 minute tip sheet to follow but the final addition to this is to get an atelier---it's French for a personal tailor.  When you buy, even off the rack, no size is perfect, therefore no item fits right.  If you spend another $20 taking it to your dry cleaner and investing some tailoring fixes, a suit you want to hold onto a decade or longer, will always fit you perfectly.  If you're just starting out get the jacket a little bigger, which might increase the slacks size, but think about if you'll wear a sweater, a vest or just gain weight as you age.  You can always take in and let out alterations.  Saks and Men's Warehouse have in-house ateliers who will measure you right there and help you out.
 Again, this should be your foundation as a man but it might take you a little time to pull it all together, a few years even based on your budget.  But you can get all the basics for $500.  Having interviewed and hired lots of people: teachers, business people, production assistants, program assistants---I often noticed who dressed well for an interview no matter how smart they were.  And I've had bosses who've tanked men before even talking to them based on their outfits.  Same thing goes for dates.

Most African American and Latino men are smart, capable and hardworking, and with a tweak or two, some training, and a chance, they can succeed but too many of them can't even get onto the field because they haven't been taught since middle school about etiquette and menswear.


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Kyle Phoenix
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