Yes-ish.
There have been several studies monitoring the advancement of children born in a variety of situations, including the varying ages of their caretaking parents (or grandparents). The general consensus in neurobiology, neuroscience and the intersection of psychology and education is that the younger parents are, the less mature they themselves are.
One of two things happens—-they lean heavily upon their parents, especially if they’re under 25 or so. Which is natural, yes, but becomes excessively multiplied the lower you go. Which is why teenage parents, in a modern society are problematic.
Or two, they have to learn to fend for themselves without parental role modelling, guidance or mediation.
Humans learn everything we seem to “know”—-whether that’s changing diapers, properly feeding children, learning to recognize what kinds of cries mean what, patience with annoying children, and most importantly how to teach what we know.
Now if you’re a teen—-you know very little, even in the 21st century. You also don’t have the emotional bandwidth to deal with parenting a child properly mostly because your stages of being parented are not completed. Plus there is still the psychological development of the parent, which means a teen parent will still be rebellious, hormonal, impatient, peer-influenced and risk taking. All of which is not conducive to being a good parent to a newborn—-which is why grandparents take on the burden—-mostly of boundaries, care taking and patience.
The bundle of teen sex joy survive their parents getting to their 20s—-how does this cognitive show up in children in school?
Very few teens have the emotional, social, healthcare, spiritual, psychological resources but a fraction of them, without their own parents help, have adequate financial resources to provide for themselves and a child. Hence, Welfare. The problem with Welfare is it is an extremely stressful system of appointments, requirements, restrictions, controls for a marginal level of resources. The whole process while on Welfare is stressful because it’s like having an objective parental/authority figure constantly controlling your life.
A child is affected because their parents are affected so there are greater instances of anxiety—-think of it as an anxiety transfer. The children pick up o the lack of abundance, the fears, the powerlessness. The relief from this is TV/movies but that creates a subliminal dissonance. You see everything on TV as perfect—-clean, abundant, bright—-but in comparison your own home life might not be the same. Because TV is a form of projected illusion, it rarely accurately shows what might be occurring, particularly in homes that are in poverty, TV is a lot like seeing all the toys and food from behind a glass wall.
A child then gets to school, and it’s a reasonable assumption, that a teen parent has had some educational interruption. Which then makes the child both loved, yes but also a source of emotional resentment. The instances of child neglect and abuse are higher the younger the parent because they may not have the coping skills' for the constant demands of a child.
In class, a child generally from younger parents, has been in less structured environments so they are labelled ADHD because their energy is off the charts from cheaper, sugar loaded foods, erratic bed times, and diffused boundaries with their parents.
Now, as grades progress, the child is confronted with carrying these issues along with them as the schooling world slowly gets more and more complex. That progressive complexity is often served better with life experienced parents instead of less experienced parents. This is also the measurement of single parents—-there’s simply a lot of work in managing and mentoring a child, that become progressively more difficult with the more barriers or obstacles.
There also generally comes a time in the child’s aging where their younger parent is drawn back to try and experience the social freedoms they may have missed. Hanging out, dating, having multiple partners over a period of time might be manageable as a single parent but a child creates a burden to burgeoning romantic relationships as a specific type of partner has to be sought out. That’s not always possible. Attraction for the parent might be right but the other adult may not have the ability or desire to be a parent, especially to a child or teen, who can express judgment or demands upon them.
If the parent were older they might have a broader and more supportive social network because they would have had more time to develop them. A younger parent will lose many friendships to their inability to attend to them or to their peers going off to colleges or work. This makes parenting when you’re younger also very lonely—-which goes back to as the child gets older more and more diffused boundaries as the child unhealthily becomes friend and confidant to their adult parent.
All of these possibilities effect development as what we do, how we act, how we’re treated changes or designs our responses. Our deepest responses stay encoded with our psyches in positive and negative ways. Neglect, abuse, resentment alter how children perceive themselves and the world.
Western Society and In Utero Development
Our society, Western society, is less geared to be able to handle younger children with emotional and brain development issues in poverty because we shelter and feed the poor but don’t always assist and mentor them. In other societies, children may live on farms or in villages, where absent parenting skills are present in multiple neighbors and relatives.
Biologically while a younger person/adult is a “newer” human they might have medical issues or even dietary habits that are not healthy to nurture a child. There’s a whole lot of science on pre-frontal cortex development, lobes and such, which essentially boils down to—-it’s difficult to determine what’s happening with babies-children because they’re growing at the same time that they’re being “damaged” so it is the assessments that occur after birth that show how alcohol, drugs, smoking, bad diet, youth affected them in utero.
Again, we see it in comparison to other children in Pre School and further along. Generally by the 3rd to 4th grade one can tell that a child is slightly off and severe issues much earlier.
Pregnancy Stress May Influence Baby's Brain Development
Can I Tell As A Teacher?
Yes. Generally even into adulthood I can reasonably figure out whose parents were younger by their behavior. I can tell their parents educational levels by the adult child and their engagement with school. There is also a marked issue of how emotionally fit or healthy children's are who have been born from stressed parents and then been parented from them. Depression, suicidal ideation, borderline personality disorder. etc..
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