Showing posts with label transgender. Show all posts
Showing posts with label transgender. Show all posts

Friday, February 17, 2023

Should a trans woman be required to identify as such on a dating site? by Kyle Phoenix

 

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No. It depends on her sexuality and where she is in the process of sexual assignment transitioning. As both the author of a book that goes into all of this, for years and years and years, many of my clients were trans, from to z and z to a, so we had to discuss everything from a perspective of reality, privacy and personal safety.

The argument of biological sex is moot to the point of there being 21 Identified Biological Sexes. None of us are completely one or the other—-you were merely named/matched to a point into the spectrum by the doctor and then socialized to it by your parents. With us now having a level of medical technology that makes it possible to have sexual reassignment surgery to the point where only another medical professional could ascertain upon a thorough examination where you started on the spectrum, is one major point.

A second point that those who bring up sex assignment biologically—-we all start out female. Yup, we’re all female in gestation.

Females have two of the same kind of sex chromosome (XX), and are called the homogametic sex. Males have two different kinds of sex chromosomes (XY), and are called the heterogametic sex.

A single gene (SRY) present on the Y chromosome acts as a signal to set the developmental pathway towards maleness. Presence of this gene starts off the process of virilization. This and other factors result in the sex differences in humans. The cells in females, with two X chromosomes, undergo X-inactivation, in which one of the two X chromosomes is inactivated. The inactivated X chromosome remains within a cell as a Barr body.——Wikipedia

Most people don’t know the first major demarcations:

  • Sex is physically determined, not exclusively, biologically. You can be several, one, two or even none.
  • Gender is socially infused or imprinted. It is mutable.
  • Sexuality is intrinsically self-determined. This too is fluidic along a spectrum not lifetime singularity. (One could make the argument that it is both our society and lifespan that don’t allow for expression of this in a singular lifetime. But as society changes and lifespans increase to 100–150 years for those born after the year 2000, we will have more time to evolve, change and experiment.)

Dating Parameters By Self & Other

So this chick is now online dating. Good for her. For personal safety, if she’s physical presenting and passing and has some, if not all of the sexual reassignment, I would tell her depending upon the site and her sexuality—-determines how she should present.

There are three broad degrees:

  • Passing: can’t tell/no tell where this person started at.
  • In Transition: can tell this person is like an Uber, heading somewhere progressively but not at their destination yet.
  • Can’t Pass: due to age, physical size, high testosterone levels, bone structure—-some folk will always be clockable.

Now before we lock down where James to Janet is on the above scale, what people don’t consider, is not the arrow, but the target.

There are at least three to four degrees of partners for a woman whether she is trans or not:

  • Hetero guy: (who does not know where Janet’s Uber originally came from)
  • Hetero guy: (who knows where Janet’s Uber originally came from, but she has all the Female model parts so he doesn't care.)
  • Homosexual man: who likes James/Janet in his Janet/James—-he’s into crossdressing homosexuals.
  • Skoliosexuals: this is man who is not homosexual and is attracted to a person who presents as female in sex and gender but does not require it absolutely physically. Breasts yes, penis, sure, vagina, maybe.

The reason why I advised several of my clients to present as they present/are is because of safety issues. Al women have to consider whether or not a man is going to kill them. Men being the biggest predator towards women on Earth, seconded to the men, a woman, is related to.

If Janet is Passing——meet him for a meal, see if there’s compatibility, go on a second date in PUBLIC. Do not go to his home, do not let him come to or drop you at your home. Tell him over the phone. This insures safety. more men have snapped and snapped the neck of a trans person, in person, because they got some information about the target of their amorous feelings.

In Transition or Can’t Pass—-it should be obvious from your pictures and profile text. Again, if you show up to his house or he to yours—-and you did some deep fake filter scrubbing and he snaps your neck—-you put yourself into a position for potential violence.

You should probably be clear in writing, on the phone, online that you are clearly trans—-explain it for the slow boys—-before meeting.

As a trans person yes, you’re still a person but you have to clarify if it needs to be discussed from the boundaries of safety first.

If you’re Platinum Grade Passing and he’s Hetero Guy and doesn't know—-this is only going to come up in a long term relationship and potentially having children. Which means that at some point you need to either become “horribly infertile” early on or divulge your secret——again, over the phone to avoid neck snapping.

But if your relationship is just for fun and you’re Passing, no, it’s your personal business, like all medical procedures. The assumption that one’s Sexual history is for public consumption is women imposing th patriarchal bs they’ve been subjected to. Interestingly women, who’ve lived time as men, establish better identity boundaries and self-belief systems. not your daddy, not your husband, not your senator, not your local sheriff, but you, a woman determine your divulgence of sexual history. Women would be more respected and powerful if they learned that the habit of flaying themselves open for inspection is dysfunctional…and spent less times on their cellphones, constantly having them n their hands—-look at that next time you’re strolling around a store or outside.

Women do and suggest to other women to do, disempowering things, that may even endanger them because those initial women were taught to do disempowering things by other women who were taught to do disempowering things.

Unless it is divulged or blatantly obvious, it is no one’s business for many personal and safety reasons.

If more women said none of your fucking business, more often, less women would have to say it. I’m just saying.

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Thursday, November 1, 2018

TKPS, Episode # 409 (11/01/18)- The Kyle Phoenix Show


TKPS, Episode # 409 (11/01/18)- The Kyle Phoenix Show
"I Want My Sex Back" Detransitioned Transgender People Who Regretted Changing Sex 

I Want My Sex Back. Detransitioned Transgender People Who Regretted Changing Sex

Detransitioned transgender people who regretted changing sex speak out. Billy, Rene and Walt were born male, but they all felt uncomfortable with their sex. So they underwent sex reassignment surgery, believing it would end their distressing condition, which is known as gender dysphoria – feeling uncomfortable with your birth sex. However, becoming female only brought problems, disappointment and regret.

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Born one way but living another, Nicky K. has it all: low standards, unfulfilled dreams, tragic mulatto angst, a history of sexual abuse, a dead Daddy who is now a pestering car wreck mangled ghost who won't quit criticizing; several obese, depressed White women as BFFs; hostile male to female transsexuals in her therapy group; a friend/former pimp who will only walk five steps ahead of her so as not to be spooked by her bad hair days; and a host of boyfriends including: an ex-convict, former model, a married bi-sexual employer; husband material in a Dominican man... who loves her maleness...a little too much; a porn star; a Pakistani conductor of the 7 train in Queens with a violent wife; her childhood molester who she dates on and off again, and a half brother who she's infatuated with....who is willing to mess around. 



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Transgender woman froze her sperm to have her own child after transition on The Kyle Phoenix Blog



This transgender beauty queen wants to have naturally-born children despite her gender reassignment surgery. Talulah Eve Brown was born male. Her birth name was Aaron. As a boy, Brown always knew that she was different. In 2014, she began treatment to transition to a woman.



Brown paid $800 to have her sperm frozen in an effort to one day have children that are biologically hers after her transition. While she isn't opposed to a relationship, she's confident that she can raise a child on her own. She told PA Real Life:

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"Ideally, I want to be settled in a relationship but I've proved that I can do all this on my own so there'd be nothing stopping me bringing up a child on my own. My mum brought me up on her own so I'm sure I'll do just fine. I was born to be a strong, independent woman – and a mother."
Brown has proven just how strong she is as she faced transphobic abuse over the years. She told PA Real Life that strangers told her she should die, threw bottles at her from cars, and threatened her at king-point. She said:
"The level of abuse I get is hurtful, but if I was to report every instance of hate crime I've experienced to police, I would be in court every single day. Instead, I just hold my head up high. There have been times where I could have potentially been beaten up, but I refuse to hide away and let these people see that they've upset me. I don't want to feel like a victim because it isn't me with the problem. I'm not any less of a person just because I'm transgender."

Brown won't let anyone or anything stop her from becoming a parent. She will be the biological father of her children, but she will raise them as their mother.


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Thursday, March 8, 2018

Kyle Phoenix Answers: How many people have you slept with? Do you think your number is too high or too low?

Teaching sex and sexuality workshops this either comes up directly or in my own personal musings when designing books or curriculum.
But then I get all technical.
  1. Penetrative Sex?
  2. Simply oral sex?
  3. Feel up/oral sex?
  4. Frottage?
  5. Do you count orgies by gross or by individuals? Threesomes? Foursomes? Moresomes?
  6. Then you have to start the subdivisions of male, female, transgenders, transsexuals, etc..
Then I had to look at phases in my life.
11 to 19, wasn’t as active as I would’ve expected. I lost my virginity, tried several things but stayed at under 10.
Something happened at 21. I was working full time, has disposable cash, could go to nightclubs and several of the nightclubs had make out, sex rooms (I’m talking about you Lime Lite!) So you go to a club, dance, make out/have sexual contact in the VIP Make Out Sex Room then go dance some more. Several nights a week. Then I got all invested in trying things out—-NYC is one of the best places to try things out—-and I didn’t drink until I was 25 and I’ve never done drugs so I’ve been able to be, try or refuse lots of things without consequence or blackouts or craziness. I was like a Sex Colombo for about 2 years.
Then I got to SUNY Buffalo and it was a bit of a dry spell, people thought I was doing way more than I was but it really was only maybe a dozen or so, maybe 25 in 5 years. I think it had a lot to do with having done so much previously and then going somewhere that there were young people yes and nubile bodies but lack of experience. I arrived a sexual Obi Wan Kenobi and all these wanna be Jedis dancing around me. About half of my sexualized relationships weren't students, adults from off campus and I was also very circumspect and private so I never had too many obvious relationships that everyone knew about.
25 to 30 was again back in NYC (and briefly Philadelphia) and the numbers doubled maybe. More opportunity, more experienced people, more money, more access. I also felt I hadn’t learned to date enough in middle and high school, maybe only a handful, so I embarked on this internet project of 100 dates in a year. Not all of them became sexual but I did learn how to date.
Now 30 on I blame work. I started volunteering/working for non profits that focused on sexuality for about 7 years and though I had boundaries in my work space, I only had two dates to a dinners that I was dating outside and never brought him and her back to work events, I think the charge of sexual energy daily translated to me at night. Then I had my own 2 bedroom in Manhattan. Then a nightclub owner was super friendly to me, my group, gave us passes so I took the youth over 21 then went myself then would go on loungey nights (Tues-Thurs) it was a short few blocks from my place and sit at the bar, 2 for 1 drinks—-$5! and write books, novels, manuscripts and the strippers would gyrate, st=lap over my notebook, I’d give them a fiver and slap a booty. A pleasant productive night for $10! I met more and more people at that club and online and my apartment became a nice sexual space for about 3–6 years. I was able to teach about sex and then practice what I taught with a whole different cohort.
I noticed on here a lot of people went anonymous which I find kinda funny and kinda sad. It’s just sex. But peope and their religions and their parents and such have such hang ups about sex. I wasn’t raised that way. In fact my parents and stepfathers had such direct, honest discussions about sex and drugs and life with me that I’m the conservative one by comparative estimates.
I would say that if I had to do a count, and I remmeber doing one abotu a decade ago and then building in all the factors of the list 1–6. All of the encounters being safe sex or the action itself obviating safe sex risk. (No I’m not going to graphically explain that, work it out yourself.) I’m no Wilt Chamberlain, but I’m no shrinking violet either.
I would say definitely over 200, under 300ish. I’ve answered ALL of my questions, I don’t think I have any fantasies really. Been there done that. I’ve been able to write dozens of books on sexuality and teach thousands of classes because of it and ask lots of questions dressed and undressed of lots of sexes, genders, sexualities. But I would again add it’s all been safe sex and I’ve never broken agreements of monogamy. If it’s duo monogamous situation I generally negotiate that we should invite the other or tell the other if that state changes, I’ve never broken that agreement.
(But one must then calculate in groups and if you’ve touched a pit, you can’t acquit even if you never got to whether a glove would fit.)
While my number may seem high, I would submit: How many hours of TV have you watched? I don’t watch TV. So if the American average is 4 hours a day, times 365, say roughly 1200 hours a year, times 20 years, 24,000 hours. Think about all the series you’ve seen every episode of, movies, sports events. Think of all the simulated murders, rapes, violence, misogyny.
I’ve spent about 15,000 hours over those 300ish being intimate, in pleasure, being present and enjoying ourselves, seeking to give joy and receive it, with other human beings, not staring at a screen….where other people are pretending.
The direct benefit? I’m far less judgmental of people and their relationships or their sexuality. I personally believe your crotch is your business and mine. I have no “beliefs” or rules about what people should and shouldn’t do.
I believe in everything, religions wise, but I ascribe to no religion. I think of them all like cable channels…but I know it’s all just TV, a curated, projection of reality but not the reality itself.
I’m more accepting of people’s differences in general. Barring violence or coercion, I’m not on any bandwagons of political hate or upset or social justice blindness or unaware of my inherently imbued racism and sexism and classism that I work diligently to supersede or correct because I do it and think it a thousand ways every day, my goal is to correct it 1001.
I’m very comfortable with myself. I like myself. My body. Even when I could stand to lose a few pounds. And I don’t judge other’s bodies in the same ways. Yes, I have preferences and things I find more or less attractive but that which I don’t favor, I don’t ridicule or eschew as valid under the Sunship. No fats, no fems is indicative of the church of the poisoned mind to me.
I love people. I have learned how to in a short period of time be vulnerable whether clothed or not, in front of a group or not. be vulnerable. A lot of the anonymous I’ve had sex with 4 people posts? Can’t be vulnerable to the world because of_______________ fill in the blank.
A lot less tension and a lot more sexual offers, relationship offers, dating offers. I’ve achieved EricssonMalcolm Gladwell Outliers Mastery!!!!!!!!

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