The Condom Myth: One Size Doesn't Fit 75% of the Planet by Kyle Phoenix
Recently, by a well meaning student of mine who now works as a coordinator of a same gender support group, I was offered some condoms. I'll be general here so as not to incur a lawsuit---we'll call them ABC Condoms. I politely declined and he was aghast as part of my curriculum with him for years had entailed discussions around condoms not only for protection against sexually transmitted infections but also unintentional pregnancies (don't sleep on it some dudes like the pole and the hole as street slang has it). I explained to him that I have never used "give away condoms" and never would. Why not? he inquired. Because you get what you pay for and what you pay for might not be good enough.
Again, one of my non-rant rantings where I offer that we must all set a standard for ourselves. that precludes expediency for a level of critical thinking about our needs and personal protection.
What does all that hyperbolic jargon mean?
The studies now going on suggest that higher HIV/STI infections have to do with Black and Latino men not wanting to wear condoms because they're uncomfortable or tear due to girth. Suddenly 1 out of 4 Black.Latino men being HIV+ by 25 makes sense. It's not simply about education its also about not having proper pencils to write with----there's multiple puns in there.
So then what works if one size doesn't fit all?
Practice and like any other form of "clothing" we put on figuring out what your size is. Interestingly enough women tend to get more sexual education and spend more time working out the vagaries of size and comfortable around things like Tampons and IUDs because society is more supportive of women literally figuring it out. men though don't know to maybe invest in Magnums, Magnum XLs, Trojan, Ribbed, polyurethane condoms that are in no way latex based.
Next Blog entry: A running list of types of condoms for men.........yeah, it's a big one!
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