It happens all the time. Well not all the time because there’s an imbalance of Tops to Versatile/Bottoms—-15% to 85%—but it generally occurs where there’s more social isolation. Think two married men who discover each other, they might not have a proclivity towards anal penetration of themselves. Or perhaps in prison. Or often where there’s a physically disparity—-physically larger and smaller where it should be “obvious” but it’s not sexually preferentially. Two guys meet and click and then realize upon discussion they both have the same preference.
The beauty of LGBTSGL relationships is the flexibility in what can occur in the relationship itself. Heterosexuality is essentially static in it’s expression. There’s lots of hetero combinations of copulation but there’s less diversity—-meaning that rarely is a hetero man the one with penetrable vagina that the female penetrates. (Now I’m sure there’s a couple out there where she’s been fucking him lovely for years—-and yes, I’m now considering a fun short story, maybe even a book. I digress.) Non-hetero—-same sex relationships are like having—with two men a male and female physicality principle present—-one can be both a penetrator and penetrated, a top and a bottom, a Democratic and Republican.
So What Do Two Tops/Alphas do?
One, they do all the other oral, finger based, toy based stuff that doesn’t include one penetrating the other with his penis—-perhaps objects, his tongue and his fingers but not his penis—-not every man, an Alpha, feels the emotional need and desire for envelopment, penetration and absorption of another man—-but he, they, might enjoy being stimulated to both orgasm and ejaculation/climax—-two separate things.
Two, same sex relationships by their very nature of absolving first the individual and therefore the individuals within the relationship from the hetero paradigm of sexuality and relationships. This means that they don’t have the same strictures about social monogamy and control of a partner’s sexuality. Same sex relationships, not only having a capacity for physical-sexual diversity but also inter-relational combinations. Meaning that you can invite someone in to Bottom for a night, a month, a period of time, a season to release that Yang energy between Two Tops. So they would share a Bottom in order to have the Yin Bottom energy principle present and to provide energy intimacy that their Yangness may not be able to provide. Though of course there is intimacy between two Tops, two Alphas, closeness.
Three, because of the sexuality combination and diversity present there’s identity freedom allowed between two Tops, Alphas, in that they can share and appreciate sexual mutual interest in another. Checking guys out, discussing fucking them, discussing the energetic penetration of another male, a Bottom, a Beta.
In many ways, the identification of what what someone is energetically, but then the next parallel step is figuring out what is the most comfortable way to express that physically and then with someone who speaks that similar energetic language allows two Tops or other same sex intimate people to design what intimacy and sexuality will look like. Heterosexuality does not allow for the same fluidity of design, because there are so many grooved patterns of what to do.
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