Monday, June 18, 2018

Kyle Phoenix Answers: I'm a bottom gay guy. Having difficulties with having sex because I am always worried about if my anus is clean or not. How to get over this issue? I want to be clean all the time.

The reason why Bottoms are the highest infected of HIV same sexing men is because of this misnomer. That you can douche in any shape, form or fashion and that won’t make your rectal tract more susceptible to infection.

The way HIV infection occurs is that the liquid—semen or blood—-is absorbed into the pink parts of your body, the most absorbent being the pink parts (gums, throat, inner urethra area, rectal tract, open wounds) of your body.

What HIV does is that your body essentially has an alarm system, you can shove your finger up your ass and your body won’t set off the alarm system because it bio-recognizes itself. However if you shove a plastic dildo, the alarm goes off. If you shove a condomed hand, finger or penis, the alarm goes off. If you shove a condomed cucumber, the alarm goes off. The alarm then send out your “Warrior” cells, your T-Cells, which are the defensive immune system-alarm response to foreign intrusion.

The reason why HIV is so pernicious and difficult to cure is two fold. A foreign entity enters your body, alarm goes off, Warrior cells dispatched, HIV then attaches TO the Warrior cells and replicates, which is why the monitoring system for HIV infection and health, is the T Cell count. The Warrior cells then reabsorb back into your body carrying the HIV infection, HIV then replicates over and over in the Warrior cell mass. There is a brief window, of approximately 30 days where it can be chemically “blasted” out of your system by a high potency anti-viral cocktail You go to a hospital and say you’ve been raped and legally they have to give it to you. But you have to maintain the regimen for at least 30 days and it makes you sick as a dog.

Truvada essentially makes your Warrior cells “coated’, impervious to infection, most of the time. It’s not perfect. It’s not 100%.

Okay, so then how to Bottom with safety and glory?

Accept that there will be a little shit in your life. Your sexual organs also deal with refuse, accept it. There’s only so much you can “do” to have a clean anal/rectal tract.
Eating fiber—-Starches and carbs create softer, less solid stool which is more likely to mush in the rectal tract rather than pass through as a solid pieces. Plenty of water also helps because it makes sure that the stool is well lubricated with mucus as well as the rectal canal.
The main issue is generally discomfort/pain which can be alleviated with two things—-sphincter exercises and training by yourself and with a partner and investing in quality lubricants. There are water based but they dry out. The drying creates friction which can cause pain and condom tears. Silicone based lubes, more expensive yes but last longer and no friction.
Another strategy is to use polyurethane condoms—-regular or female condoms. They too are more expensive but it’s basically like putting a condom with the concentrated strength of a Hefty bag onto a penis, you really, really have to fuck using razors to tear them. Female condoms are made of this too. You can insert the sheath area into the rectum, lube inside already, the strong plastic ring won’t allow it to slip inside so it stays affixed to the anus/vagina and then a partner can insert toys or a penis or fingers, without the penis, etc having to be tightly sheathed but the internal pink parts of a partner are protected. However as a caveat, though several Bottoms were fine with the lube, sheath insertion, time and effort this took—-it requires practice and patience. I felt that it had become a proctological exam and that durable, well made condoms were a better, easier bet. The idea of insertion is simpler than the reality of essentially trying to put a polyurethane pillow case covered with lube into a man’s ass, keep the rigid ring outside, insert AND enjoy the whole thing.
You can bathe, soak in hot water and with a hypoallergenic soap clean your anus, sphincter and allow water into the rectal area using your fingers. That’s as much of “douching” as you can do. Douching works for women because the vagina is basically a self cleaning organ, it naturally flushes toxins. The anus doesn’t do so in the same way. If a man douches he’s inserting a foreign object, the body’s alarm system goes off, the Warrior cells come out, he goes and fucks a guy, the guy is HIV+ and the HIV infection then comes out and the bottoming male is more susceptible because his ass/rectum/anal canal has been primed for infection by douching.
Only allow fingers to penetrate and massage the prostate as “”anal sex”, making sure nails are neatly trimmed and there are no open wounds. Our skin acts as a natural barrier to HIV if we’re not cut.. and pink parts, blood areas aren’t exposed.

GThat’s Safe Anal Sex for Men 101. I’ve literally taught it hundreds of times to thousands of men in workshops and often stoppe din the middle of sexual congress to correct someone and then they asked me a question and then I answered it and then they asked another question, I answered it and asked coudl we get back to fucking now, please?

GNow go to the CDC web site and read it. Their description is just much more technical than mine but the same. The infection rate is so high for Bottoms because they conflate positionality to body parts. Just because you get into the same sexualized positions as a woman does not mean your ass is a vagina. They operate differently which means their care and maintenance are
different.