Get the book Dynamic Duos where all of this science/research comes from to understand the Alpha Beta Mating System better.
You’re an A/b.
You’re an A/b.
A physical Alpha—-testosterone gives Alphas certain physical characteristics and when it’s greater than estrogen, even more pronounced masculine ones.
And you’re an emotional Beta—-estrogen giving Betas a different emotional and relational preference than what their body may look like.
Your challenge is communicating that. What’s probably happening to you is a guy is attracted to you, many I’m sure. And they’re Betas—-some physically but the majority emotionally. In workshops I term it the Take Me theory—-two men get home and both throw themselves onto their backs on the bed yelling “Take me!”
Get the book Dynamic Duos where all of this science/research comes from to understand the Alpha Beta Mating System better.
Advice I give is you have to present yourself differently. It may be difficult because of your physicality. So if you’re really brawny looking then you have to position yourself where there are more Alpha men at. A/a’s will recognize your Betaness and appreciate and be attracted to it. Boat shows, gun shows, car shows, masculine gyms—boxing, martial arts—not just exercise, amateur sports teams like football, rugby, rowing—-sports that require more brawn/physical strength than skill like tennis.
Go alone. Betas tend to travel in packs for emotional protection. When you’re in a pack, just like women at a club or public, men, Alphas can’t get to you because you’re surrounded and if they do approach, you have the whole pack staring him down. The beauty however of going alone is that you can honestly ask questions of men and an Alpha man will want to help you, teach you, guide you. I tell Betas to wear a pin, or a bracelet or mention volunteering for some LGBT organization so that Alpha men know what you are, Betas butch it up alone and Alphas, lacking the same emotional radar skills can’t always discern if men are gay or not—-to an Alpha all men seem kind of gayish.
Be clear with men when you meet them. State very Beta defining terminology that even someone who isn’t aware of all of these systems can understand.
- “I’m not a leader. I prefer to follow and be with a man who is comfortable being in charge.”
- “Every man has to put up a strong front but in truth, inside I’m much more emotional, pliable than I look.”
- “I like taking care of men. Being the caretaker.”
- “I want to make a men feel sexually good by giving myself to him. I am not so much interested in being the taker or dominant one in a relationships with a man.”
- “That__________________ does not turn me on. I’m much softer, gentler, empathetic than that.”
Two other books:
Getting To I Do by Dr. Patricia Allen. The BEST book ever for energies, masculine and feminine in men and women and what to do when they’re incongruent and how to pursue, negotiate, and argue with mates male or female, as your energy not your physical sex.
Good Men for Men by Kyle Phoenix. I go into exhaustive detail about where to pursue Alphas and Betas from a decade of workshops with thousands of men, what works and what doesn’t.
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